(Closed) Should I be offended?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

No not at all.  It would just mean we both shared a special date =)

Post # 5
933 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s not offensive & maybe would help them recall your birthday too 🙂 And the year is different between the two dates.


Since there are only 365 days in a year, it would be very difficult to find a date that wasn’t already someone’s “something”… between holidays/anniversaries/work schedules/weather, etc.  That said, if you’re planning something that’s far enough in the future, it would be nice to not overlap certain things.  One thing that I think is nice is to get married on the anniversary of grandparents.

Post # 6
1654 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

The way I see it, there are only 52 weekends in a year, so odds are – especially if you have a big family – the date you choose is going to be significant somehow to someone.  I think it would be very churlish of someone to get upset because you’re getting married on their birthday or anniversary.  Maybe unless it was a really big milestone birthday or anniversary – ok, maybe.  But personally, I wouldn’t take someone’s wedding as someone stealing my day.  It’s a birthday.  I’m pretty sure I’ll have another one next year.  I think your SO is being a bit nutty about this one.

(Tongue-in-cheek PS – The September 11th attacks happened on my birthday.  Now, THOSE are some a**holes who stole my special day.)

Post # 7
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i hear you OP, my SIL gave birth to her first son on my birthday – who does something like that, how rude!

note: tongue was firmly in cheek when i hit the submit button

Post # 8
968 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Should you be offended? Not at all.

I really don’t think it’s that big of a deal, and like a pp mentioned, it’s a special day you both share (for different reasons) and maybe it will help you to remember the date. 🙂

Post # 10
16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

No way. Our wedding date fell on the day after my best friend’s birthday, so as MOH, she spent her birthday this year at my rehearsal dinner.

I apologized about the timing and made sure that she knew that I hadn’t forgotten about her. And that’s all it took. 🙂

Post # 11
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Nope not at all

Post # 12
2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012


Post # 13
9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

No, not at all.  Congratulations to your brother.

Post # 14
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My first wedding was on my husbands mothers birthday. His idea- he never forgot either

Post # 15
4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

No way.  My friend is getting married on my birthday.  I don’t mind at all.

Post # 16
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Not at all! My friend’s wedding is the day after my birthday, and the only negative I see is that it will make it harder for her to attend a birthday dinner or something (in future years, obviously this one is out!), but it’s not that big of a deal.

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