- 4 years ago
My FI is going home to Texas for Christmas without me, I’ll be going home to Philly to be with my family. He actually didn’t even ask me to come with him because he said he knew I would say no…it was highly probably but I still would have appreciated an invite. I didn’t even get a chance to invite him home because he started planning his trip way before me (clearly, it’s much farther).
On any note, he tells me the other day that he and his sister are going to surprise his mom by finally giving her family portraits for Christmas. I ask him, knowing full well the answer…”oh? Who’s idea was this?”
He’s like, “my sister’s of course.”
Me: “Does she know I’m not coming home with you?”
Him: “Yes” (puzzled look)
Me: “Is her husband going to be in the picture?”
Him: (playing dumb) I don’t know…she didn’t mention him. But probably of course?
He doesn’t get why I’m offended that they would take family pictures without me. I don’t really care to not be included but I was a bit bewildered that they would choose this Christmas of all Christmases to take family pictures. We’re getting married in March.
Reasons why I think it’s a deliberate snuff and keep in mind, this is a smart woman. She’s a PhD in child psychology so it’s not like she would overlook the slight.
-Why not last Christmas when we were just dating?
-His mother isn’t old (under 60) so it’s not like they’re thinking, let’s do it before she passes or anything
-His sister will have given birth like 3 weeks prior to these pictures, you really want to take pics immediately after? Exhausted, chubby, and with a newborn who will barely have facial features let alone expressions? What’s the rush?
I’m sure I’ll get flamed a bit-it’s their family, they can do what they want, I shouldn’t care, etc. But aren’t they going to be my family too? I think this is a bad start. I would never exclude someone from a “family” event unless I didn’t like him/her or approve of the marriage and even still, I wouldn’t.
My only solace to his feigned ignorance is knowing that he’s going to look like the creepy uncle in the back of a family portrait with his mother, his sister, her husband, and their 3 children. ha!
Sorry so long bees…but what do you think? Deliberate snuff, prepare for a life of this sh*t or if you think there’s another reason, please explain.