should I be suspicious

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2315 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Do you normally have a tendency to look at his phone? If not, then his behaviour is strange because what he is doing is making you want to look at his phone!

Maybe he has info about your Christmas present on it!



Post # 4
1231 posts
Bumble bee

Porn would be the least of my worries at this point. Based on this and some other posts. I would say he seems very detached.  You said here he has no interest in making love, just having sex. That TOGETHER with the other details is very concerning. 

Post # 5
25 posts

@shelleymasters2:  sounds like its time to sit down and have a talk and express whatever feelings you have towards him & the phone and the lack of intimacy you two share, like @beemyname:  said, the whole porn thing would be the least of my worries.

he could be hiding something special for you or he could just be hiding something. but then again it could totally just be a phase. sit dwn and talk and his first initial reaction should give you some clues. 

Post # 6
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

How long have you been together?  Is his phone locked?  Has he always been like that with his phone?  Is porn your only concern?

Post # 7
2394 posts
Buzzing bee


His phone is glued to his hip constantly, even when he’s sleeping (?!) and he takes it with him when he goes into another room? And now he just wants straight up sex vs. lovemaking?

Red flags! Yes, I would be suspicious — not just that he’s watching porn (not a huge big deal in my opinion, as long as it’s not something like child porn or violent/rape situations), but moreso that he’s possibly cheating.

Is this something that just started up in the past few weeks or has it been going on for a while? 

If you suspect him of cheating, I would confront him and give him a chance to explain himself. 

If you suspect that he’s just watching porn, well, all I can say is that a zebra doesn’t change its stripes. If he enjoys porn, don’t delude yourself that you can make some kind of deal with him that he’ll stop. He won’t. You’re going to have to search your soul and decide whether this is going to be a deal-breaker for you or not. If you can’t bear the idea of your SO watching porn, you need to find another SO. There are men out there who are not into porn — my DH is one of them. Don’t waste your time trying to change a man. 








Post # 8
3097 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

*I* woul be t, but not just cause he has his phone but also because he is dettached as you say.

Post # 9
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I used to lose my phone a lot, so now it’s always attatched to my hip- could this be his reason? I keep it in my pillow when I’m sleeping b/c I’m a heavy sleeper and don’t want to miss the alarm or any emergency calls.

How long have you been together? If passion is diminishing and he’s asking to watch porn, he might be getting a little bored and needing to spice things up. This doesn’t mean he’s cheating.

Post # 10
2072 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Yeah, I would be more concerned about cheating or some other conversation that he needs to keep hidden, than watching porn. 


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