Should I be upset?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
4819 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

No, if he’s busy in a meeting, then he is busy in a meeting. I would also hang up in a fluster. I’m not going to “baby, I looooove you” when I’m in a meeting. You have irrational fears.

Post # 4
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

If he was really in a meeting then I think you are being unreasonable.

Post # 5
2103 posts
Buzzing bee

@worldtraveler:  I think he forgot to silence his phone and when it went off he panicked and mashed all kinds of buttons.

Post # 6
3731 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@worldtraveler: Sorry but I think you’re overreacting.


If I’m in the middle of something and people keep calling me, I’ll ignore the call. I’ll ignore it several times. If they keep calling, I’ll answer and hang up. If they still don’t get the point, I’ll answer and say, “I’m BUSY. I will call you back.” That’s why we have voicemail.

Post # 7
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It sounds to me like he was at work and stressed out that his phone was ringing during a meeting.  I wouldn’t bother getting in a fight about it.  Maybe you could just gently give him an alternative for how to handle it next time (like maybe he should send you a text before the meeting saying “going to be unreachable for the next 3 hours, in a meeting”).

Post # 8
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Well he was in a meeting. If I get a call when I’m not able to take it, I turn off the ringer and call back when I get a chance. I don’t think he did anything wrong and I wouldn’t bring it up. It’s not that he wouldn’t speak to you but that no matter who was calling, he wouldn’t be able to have a conversation at that very minute. I think you might be projecting a little bit? Why do you think he might be losing interest?

Post # 9
1287 posts
Bumble bee

Was he at work? He was probalby busy.  FI and I have rules not to talk to one another on the phone when we are at work unless it’s an emergency.  If we just want to see how one another is doing, we shoot each other an email.  Phone calls to SO’s aren’t very professional during work hours, in my opinion.  A girl here at work is constantly on the phone with her husband and I find it extremely annoying and distracting because she’s  not doing her work. 


Post # 10
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Chrysoberyl:  +1 

It sounds like he called you back as soon as he could. Don’t worry about it. 

Post # 11
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013


I dont even call my FI at work unless it really can’t wait. I get annoyed when people (anyone) call me at work. I want to get my work done and get home. I will text but that’s it. I think you are overreacting.

Post # 12
22125 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Schatzie821:  Good advice! I agree — don’t hold this against him, but maybe just nicely ask that he not hang up on you in the future. If he can’t talk, he can just not answer his phone.

Post # 13
1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

You might have called the first time when the meeting had just started, someone just asked him a question, etc. and he had to silence the call right away.  I don’t think you should be upset and it seems like you’re projecting your own insecurities about the relationship onto this one incident.

Post # 14
1231 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

Lol if I’m at work, I rarely pick up if DH calls; I have work to do! why would you get upset, especially the fact that he said I love you, it’s not like he’s up to something shady. He was probably just embarrassed his phone went off in the meeting. 

Post # 16
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@worldtraveler:  let it go, he was in a meeting.   he could get into trouble for accepting a personal call during business hours.

i know what this is like and hated personal calls while i was working.

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