Post # 1
I’m pretty sure my S/O hung up on me when I tried to call him this morning. I thought the call was dropped (not an uncommon happening) so I kept trying to call and on the third try he picked up and explained that he was in a meeting and wasn’t really available to talk. We went through the whole I love you talk to you this evening spiel and hung up. After I realized that he had probably hung up on me the first time! I think that’s rude and it brings up all these fears that he’s losing interest and avoiding me. And I don’t see why he didn’t just tell me what was happening during the first call since he ended up doing it anyway. Should I bring it up when we talk this evening?
Post # 3
No, if he’s busy in a meeting, then he is busy in a meeting. I would also hang up in a fluster. I’m not going to “baby, I looooove you” when I’m in a meeting. You have irrational fears.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
If he was really in a meeting then I think you are being unreasonable.
Post # 5
@worldtraveler: I think he forgot to silence his phone and when it went off he panicked and mashed all kinds of buttons.
Post # 6
@worldtraveler: Sorry but I think you’re overreacting.
If I’m in the middle of something and people keep calling me, I’ll ignore the call. I’ll ignore it several times. If they keep calling, I’ll answer and hang up. If they still don’t get the point, I’ll answer and say, “I’m BUSY. I will call you back.” That’s why we have voicemail.
Post # 7
It sounds to me like he was at work and stressed out that his phone was ringing during a meeting. I wouldn’t bother getting in a fight about it. Maybe you could just gently give him an alternative for how to handle it next time (like maybe he should send you a text before the meeting saying “going to be unreachable for the next 3 hours, in a meeting”).
Post # 8
Well he was in a meeting. If I get a call when I’m not able to take it, I turn off the ringer and call back when I get a chance. I don’t think he did anything wrong and I wouldn’t bring it up. It’s not that he wouldn’t speak to you but that no matter who was calling, he wouldn’t be able to have a conversation at that very minute. I think you might be projecting a little bit? Why do you think he might be losing interest?
Post # 9
Was he at work? He was probalby busy. FI and I have rules not to talk to one another on the phone when we are at work unless it’s an emergency. If we just want to see how one another is doing, we shoot each other an email. Phone calls to SO’s aren’t very professional during work hours, in my opinion. A girl here at work is constantly on the phone with her husband and I find it extremely annoying and distracting because she’s not doing her work.
Post # 10
It sounds like he called you back as soon as he could. Don’t worry about it.
Post # 11
I dont even call my FI at work unless it really can’t wait. I get annoyed when people (anyone) call me at work. I want to get my work done and get home. I will text but that’s it. I think you are overreacting.
Post # 12
@Schatzie821: Good advice! I agree — don’t hold this against him, but maybe just nicely ask that he not hang up on you in the future. If he can’t talk, he can just not answer his phone.
Post # 13
You might have called the first time when the meeting had just started, someone just asked him a question, etc. and he had to silence the call right away. I don’t think you should be upset and it seems like you’re projecting your own insecurities about the relationship onto this one incident.
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
Lol if I’m at work, I rarely pick up if DH calls; I have work to do! why would you get upset, especially the fact that he said I love you, it’s not like he’s up to something shady. He was probably just embarrassed his phone went off in the meeting.
Post # 15
Just to clarify, he was not at work per se…he works for himself and doesn’t have a normal 9-5 schedule. I make a point not to call him when I know he has a schedule meeting or appointment but I didn’t know he had anything of the sort today. It probably came up suddenly. And he’s in the developing world so dropped calls happen all the time. But I’m glad to hear I’m overreacting!
Post # 16
@worldtraveler: let it go, he was in a meeting. he could get into trouble for accepting a personal call during business hours.
i know what this is like and hated personal calls while i was working.