Should I be upset?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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588 posts
Busy bee

foreverlovex:  I don’t know if there is a “should” here, but gifts are well, gifts – no one is obligated to give you a wedding gift, and if they choose to, they aren’t obligated to use the registry. I know I preferred things off our registry, but sometimes people want to give personal items or cash, and that is their choice. We got some *hugely* impratical things from people who went off registry, but it is what it is.

People also do a lot of last minute shopping for weddings, so it’s likely, that so long as people know about your registry, they’ll use it a few days before your wedding.

Post # 3
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42490 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

foreverlovex:  You are entitled to your feelings whatever they are. But being upset that your guests haven’t used your registry is premature, causes you additional stress and won’t change  a thing.

There are several possiilities: they are last minute shoppers; they are bargain shoppers and have purchsed the same item elsewhere for less; or, they are giving you cash!

Post # 4
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3806 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

foreverlovex:  this happens to a lot of brides. people didn’t really buy anything until a week before the wedding. don’t be discouraged. i didn’t know it wasn’t normal for people to bring gifts to the wedding because we got A LOT of gifts at our wedding.

some people just wait until the last minute. we got a lot of gift cards to the stores where we registered too. that’s just the way it goes.

Post # 5
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720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We only got a few things off our registry for the actual wedding.  Most people gave money or gift cards.  Perhaps that’s what is going on in your case. You can just buy what you want afterwards 🙂

Post # 6
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8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve always given a check as a wedding gift. I wouldn’t even think of a registry, unless you’re talking about your shower. 

Post # 7
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657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Most people give cash, so I wouldn’t be worried. Registries are more for the shower then the wedding.

Post # 8
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

foreverlovex:  I can understand being dissapointed but no, you shouldn’t be upset. A registry is a list of suggestions for people who want them.  A bride choosing to create one does not obligate her guests to use it. 

Besides, if the registry items are things you want and need, you can buy them later yourself so taking the time to select them and assemble the list won’t be wasted.

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