Should I be upset?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

CanadianBride456:  I think you’re reading too much into it. I don’t think he’s choosing sides at all. I think he honestly just doesn’t want to get involved. I think he’s just being a guy.

Post # 3
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557 posts
Busy bee

His response is the exact response I would give in that situation

Post # 5
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287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Honest opinion?Ok. i would call her and tell her yourself that you are worried she is mad at you and then id go on to explain the mix up. I dont think your FI was wrong at not getting involved as, at this point, you only THINK she maybe mad at you. Maybe if she had gone nuts on you or something then i could understand you feeling a bit pissed if he didnt stick up for you but for now its just an assumption.Plus you said yourself you would be able to clear this up with her so he’s probably thinking thats what will happen anyways

Post # 6
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

CanadianBride456: You aren’t being crazy, but I don’t blame FI for not wanting to be involved. You’re an adult, you can work out your own miscommunication errors!

She might be hurt or whatnot so why not take a step back, give / get some space and when you see her next show her the texts so she knows that you made a genuine mistake? Sometimes not doing anything can help move things forward!

Post # 7
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7090 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Call her and smooth things over yourself. Why does he need to get involved?

Post # 8
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6506 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Just call her. I would have said the same thing if I was him. No, I don’t think you should be upset- this isn’t him choosing her over you, it’s him not wanting to get involved.

Post # 10
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1049 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think your FI is in the right.  Guys hate getting involved in girl stuff, and you know a guy would never have this problem with another guy as they’d get over it immediately.  It is also not his problem to fix your mistake.  Guys also try to avoid white lies like that in my experience… too hard to remember down the track and they let something slip, then they look like the bad guy!  That whole text thing sounds silly and immature IMO

I agree with PP, just call her and explain what happened and say I really hope you aren’t upset.  

Post # 11
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849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

CanadianBride456: I don’t think he should get involved, because it doesn’t sem like a huge or serious problem. I think getting him involved would make it worse. Honestly, he knows his sister and I’m sure if he was that concerned about it, he would say something. 

Post # 12
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1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

CanadianBride456:  His response is fine.  I wouldn’t get involved either – it usually ends up making things worse. Send her a message or call her and tell her the truth. A rational person would understand.

Post # 14
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115 posts
Blushing bee

CanadianBride456:  He said exactly what he meant, and you’re reading too much into it. Honestly, pick up the phone, call her yourself, and explain/apologize. Why wait till tomorrow when it can be fixed right now with a couple minute phone call?

Edit: Sorry, OP we posted at the same time 🙂

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by  Gr33nsLove.
Post # 15
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596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

CanadianBride456:  My FI would tell me the same thing. I tend to be overly sensitive sometimes and could understand how you’ll be bothered with the tone of how your FI said it. But believe me, it’s not about picking sides. My FI would think this is a you and my sister problem, not mine. Lol It’s just a typical man response, not wanting to get involved in girl drama. 

 

And I also think you should just talk to your FSIL about the mix up yourself. 

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