Should I be upset?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If you comment on other guys with your friends, yes you’re a hypocrite. You can’t expect him to not make comments if you do so yourself..

This doesn’t happen in my relationship. Not because its not allowed but because we both find it disrespectful to comment on other peoples looks.

Post # 3
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8192 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I would find it inappropriate as a customer to know that they were doing this. 

Post # 4
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4020 posts
Honey bee

Does it matter if we think you should be upset? Are YOU upset? You’re allowed to feel however you want- it’s how you decide to approach it that could be a problem. 

Post # 5
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13744 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont’ see the big deal at all.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

It would annoy me but I don’t think it is anything to be upset about.  It is kind of natural for people to check out the opposite sex.  I agree with PP that from the customer’s point of view it is kind of creepy/inappropriate (the whole checking the camera aspect, at least.)

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

it’s semi creepy from a customer’s POV, but i mean…i don’t think it’s anything to really fight about. if you’re upset you’re upset. you can’t really help how you feel. but it sounds like the friend is the one who might be checking them out; like your husband is maybe like “dude look at her she’s pretty/hot you should ask her out!” not like “hey man she’s hot, right? i wanna tap that.”

hopefully that makes sense. plus, i’m in the school of belief that you can be in a committed healthy relationship and still recognize attractiveness in the opposite sex.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

Cursivefan:  Same as the PPs. Guys check out girls, that’s how they’re wired. But it is a bit creepy to be the customer getting talked about.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

ClaudiaKishi:  Exactly. 

Cursivefan:  Boys will be boys and sometimes ignorance is bliss.  It sounds harmless, but I can see how it would piss you off.  If you’re asking if you “should” be upset, chances are you already are upset otherwise you wouldn’t have written this.  I just would try to let it go.  

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2025

Cursivefan:  I think it’s relatively minor, but you feel what you feel! I check out guys and girls with my SO, but more for fashion, ideas, and how they style/pair things together. I disagree with PP – I don’t think what happened was disrespectful. I like the way Bradley Cooper looks damn fine, and my SO loooves Jessica Alba. Doesn’t mean we love each other any less!

And all this is speculation and assumptions.. if you really want to know, you should just ask him. It’ll save you a lot of time agonizing over this.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’d probably just make a joke about it, DH would get embarrassed, I’d laugh, the end. I don’t comment on guys to my friends though because I don’t notice them or have a need to. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

I don’t think it’s that big of a deal unless he’s actually trying to get their phone numbers or something (from the relationship point).

From the customer point, big fucking ew.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Just because he’s married doesn’t mean he’s not allowed to look. You look, I look, he looks. However, I have mixed feelings on him looking over customers, but rationally, he could look at them while they’re in the store, and it’s not like security tapes or cameras are like looking at the real thing. I find some men I see attractive, and I’ll comment on it to my friends. He’s doing the same thing.

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Post # 14
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Busy bee

that is SO disturbing! does he re-watch the videos everyday to find the hot girls? that is so pervy!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

I would have no issue with this.

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