Post # 1
Our original plan was to be engaged by late this year or early next year. My boyfriend and I were talking about the future last night and it didn’t seem to go so well. One thing he said was that our relationship was so great that he just didn’t see the purpose of rushing things. He also said that he wants us to officially live together definitely before marriage and preferably before engagement. The main reason for not living together now is religious. I’m not completely against living together but it’s not my first choice. I would want to be engaged or atleast know it was very near. I just don’t understand where he’s coming from.
Do you think he’s nervous about the idea of marriage? Should I take this as a warning sign?
Post # 3
@Kacey23: I think you should take it as a sign that the two of you need to sit down and talk. None of us can guess what your boyfriend is thinking. If you two are at the point of talking about marriage then it’s time to talk about what you both see for the future.
Post # 4
@Kacey23: I think it is completely reasonable for you to want more of a commitment from him (a ring and an official engagement) before you uproot your life and move in together. That is a big step.
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Post # 6
@Kacey23: I agree with the other ladies. If you guys are going to be husband and wife, you need to be able to communicate about literally anything and everything. This is a good time to start! “Honey, I’m not sure that I’m comfortable living together when we’re not engaged or about to be engaged. How long do you want to live together prior to the engagement? I would be much more comfortable if we had a timeline.” Good luck!
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! We definitely have some things to discuss.