Should I be worried that I'm not stressed?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

YOu’re not doing anything wrong! You’re in good shape. Not everyone stresses out, I’m sure. WE just tend to hear about it when people DO! Enjoy it! 

Post # 4
2057 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

Wedding planning ain’t a stress rehearsal for my FI and myself either!

I’m dealing with losing family members though; my guest drama is mostly dwindling numbers due to possible deaths before the wedding (cancer) or guests couldn’t come because they have to get married themselves. Lost my dad to heart attack. Different kind of dynamic. It’s more real and less of a bride’s fantasy.

At this point, I’m ready to party and celebrate what’s left of our families. I don’t care if the bouquet is pretty; etc etc. Just as long as my family and closest friends are there.

Post # 5
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn

@nestle:  your not doing anything wrong!!

i wasnt stressed at all during the planning of our wedding – i loved every second of it and i think being relaxed and stress free helped that.

sounds like your in for a peaceful planning ride – enjoy it – it all speeds by so quick!x

Post # 6
8850 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

That’s great!  No reason to be stressed.

I will say, when you’re down to the wire and trying to wrangle all the last minute details, that’s when the stress often kicks in.  Not really 6 months out, in my experience…. 

Post # 7
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@nestle:  Enjoy it! I stressed right away because I was being too picky, and then all of a sudden I just let everything go, and I was so mellow. Even the day of everyone was like, “Why aren’t you more nervous!” I didn’t get nervous until I had to walk down the aisle and that was only because I had to sing soon after (my legs were also sweating and shaking and I was wearing heels, lol).

Post # 9
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@nestle:  You know what? I wonder the same thing! I’m like, “shouldn’t I care more about the BM dresses or is it a sign I’m not into my man, the wedding, our marriage, etc?”

Abandon your inner-woman and don’t over analyze! Sounds like you’ve got no reasons to stress.

For me, I realized that they are just purple dresses and the fact that I didn’t agonize over any of it just means it’s not that big a deal to me.

Post # 10
1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

@nestle:  It sounds like you have a lot taken care of, so that’s probably why you aren’t stressed. 🙂

I think the stress comes when you get closer.
When things go wrong, that also causes stress. Doesn’t sound like you have had that happen. 
Also, family and bridal party are a huge part of the stress.

Also, if you are wanting to have drinks and dancing, make sure your church is cool with that. I know a whole lot of churches do NOT allow one or both of those.

Post # 10
1107 posts
Bumble bee

I’m so glad you aren’t stressed. 🙂 And congrats in advance… 😉

I actually just wrote a post on this very topic, and when I published it, this thread came up! Read it if you want.

Stay stress-free. Society tells you to be stressed, make a million crazy decisions that NO ONE ELSE will care about, etc. It’s the economy of weddings. A wedding is a celebration of the BEGINNING of a MARRIAGE. Simple as that. There are certain details that are no-brainers because they involve the logistics of actually accomodating the people you want to see you make your vows (like making sure there are chairs in the venue…lol). But the rest? Not worth your stress. 🙂

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