Should I Bring it up?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Should I remind him of his announcements?
    Yes it's always good to discuss everything with your SO. : (52 votes)
    88 %
    Nah give it until it's New Years Eve again. : (3 votes)
    5 %
    Don't worry... it will happen. : (4 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 4
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    In most of these posts, I say no. Your situation is different. You have every right to ask your SO about the statements he made and what his plan is. Good luck!


    Post # 5
    1460 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

    If you haven’t had a proper discussion about it then I definitely think you deserve to know at least a little of what he’s thinking, especially with all the public promises he’s been making.

    hope it goes well x

    Post # 8
    1460 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

    @tiff-tiff-tiff:  I mean something a bit more concrete in terms of planning for the future “so what are your plans for us? Do you have any?” kind of thing. Not just hopeful talk about the wedding itself 🙂

    Post # 10
    497 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @tiff-tiff-tiff Normally, I would caution women against the “when are we getting married” talks. Too much pressure and you don’t want to pressure someone into marrying you. However, I will say that it has been 8 years. While you are both very young, I am always of the opinion that men very territorial and when they want to be with you, they make that clear in action AND in word.

    My fear for you is that you waste your entire 20s with someone who professes that he wants to marry you and never does. I’ve seen this with a lot of my girlfriends who waste 6 years, 7, years, 10 years with someone waiting on a ring that does not come. 

    I suggest that you make an internal deadline of a date that you are no longer willing to wait (without telling your SO) and if there is no proposal, you prepare yourself to move on.

    Post # 11
    3084 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @tiff-tiff-tiff:  You have two children together. I would definitely bring it up. He can’t keep on making these comments without you feeling like he is going to propose.

    Post # 12
    143 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It takes two people to get engaged, and so your feelings and opinion about it should be considered too.  You shouldn’t feel like you are being impatient or nagging by just (respectfully and carefully) voicing your thoughts.  If you manage to do it in a nonconfrontational way, maybe you can find out what the hold up is and really address that, if there is one.  I’m sure he worries about it too, so honesty couldn’t hurt at all.

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