- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee boards
Would you buy a dress that you knew your Fi didn't like? Even if it's a dumb reason? I think he'll change his mind when he sees it on me on the day of, but who knows...
Is it the one you showed us on another post? With the deep V back? If so- He doesn't like it? Whaaaat. May I ask, what's the "dumb reason"?
My FI won't get to see it until we get married, but if by chance he saw it before & disliked it-- I probably wouldn't wear it.
Aww sad. It's such a classic dress... what a dilemma!
This is probably unfair to lots of men, but I think guys have a hard time visualizing how things will look. They see somethng on a runway model (ps why do the bride models always look SO unhappy) and can't really imagine what it would look like on you in the context of the day. You really know what works on your body, and how you want to look that day. If you are talking about the Lela Rose dress, I personally veto your husband and say BUY IT! :)
seriously, about the one you already posted? what is his issue with it? it's faaaabulous.
I never trust men's opinions on clothing anyways =]
YES. I did buy one that he saw a picture of and said he didn't like because it was a "mermaid" style (WHATEVER, the dress starts flaring immediately below the waist at the hip line). But it was my favorite, and I know he'll love it on me, so I'm not going to let that stop me from wearing what looks best. ;)
What doesn't he like?
The dress is gorgeous?
I need to know the reason before I decide whether I would or not!
I definitely sympathize with how you're feeling! My fiance didn't like any of the dresses I started out looking at, either, and it was very frustrating. I would agree with the other girls that it depends on his reason. If it's something small and silly like you say, maybe he won't even notice! After all, he'll be looking at his new bride, not her dress. :)
Let me just tell you... I showed then-fiance a batch of pictures that included my dress. He said that for the most part they were all just fine, but just don't get the hideous one with the poofy train. He hated that one! (which also happened to be my dress).
The fact was, that the Dolce (my dress) was the one that stood out from the crowd. It was different and bold, so he noticed it.
I never doubted for a second that he would love it when he saw it. And when he did see it, he thanked me for not listening to him. Guys are many things, but for the most part fashion guru is not in their repetoire!
I should say that I almost took it as a good sign that he didn't like my dress... He really is the antithesis of fashion!
I think I would still wear one if he doesnt like it. Thats the one thing the bride gets final say on and does not need input from someone else (unless they're paying for it). It's all hers, she has to wear it, and she is the one wants to feel like she's smoking! I know I would be a little disappointed if Mr. Joe said he didnt like my wedding dress, but I also know there's no way he'd ever really remember it anyway unless I showed him pictures again. Different dresses look different on different people and that's not something guys really understand. A tux is a tux is a tux and all guys look good in them so how COULD they understand? lol
My fiance and I went through some cut-outs that I had for possibilities. He didn't like any of them. He said, "They all have the fancy stuff, what is it called?" It was lace. He said they all had to much lace. Anyway, I love lace. Lace, lace, lace. It's just so girly and romantic. I haven't bought my dress yet, but I decided I'm not going to listen to his comment. The day of, he will be so excited and think I look beautiful no matter what I wear.
My advice, take his reason into consideration. If it's a good reason, then your decision is harder. If it's a silly reason, go with the dress. If you really like the dress, you'll shine in it and the day of he'll think you're beautiful.
He thinks the neckline is asymmetrical and he hates anything asymmetrical. I have a large-ish chest as well and he thinks it might look a little odd because of it.. When you see the dress from the front though, it doesn't really look all that uneven. It looks like it has a small v neckline and then the pleats on one side. I think he'll like it more on me on the big day. He told me that he was having a hard time imagining it on me and not a model, etc. Grrr. The first picture is of the dress straight on, which I showed him AFTER he voiced his concerns. He backed down a bit after that. The second pic is what I showed him first. She's all twisted in a weird way I think.
005_sec01.jpg (22.6 KB, 67 downloads) 2 years old lelafrontview.jpg (30.6 KB, 60 downloads) 2 years old 
My fiance picked the dress I ended up sticking with as his last choice, but then again, i think he was thinking more practically (it'd be easier and less ebay to keep the other one, plus 50 bucks less $) than anything. Honestly though, I don't think they'll really care between one or the other - they'll just see you.
It's your wedding day—I'm sure he'll think you look gorgeous despite his phobia of crinoline (or whatever it is he dislikes about the dress.) As long as you are confident and know you look amazing, he'll think that, too.
It doesn't really look all that asymetrical to me... However, is it possible to find a dress VERY similar that one without that asymetrical lines, or get it alterered somehow? I only ask because if it does REALLY bother him on the wedding day, he'd be starting at your chest the whole time lol
Oh that is a stupid reason - I vote buy it!!!!!!!!!!!
I think the dress is GORGEOUS! Asymmetry usually adds nice effects to pieces and when it is subtle like that you won't even know why you love the neckline you just WILL!
I think it is gorgeous and you should go for it and he will feel like a fool after he sees how AMAZING you look on your wedding day!
i think he'll have no complaint after he sees it on you. Guys aren't imaginary visual--so I think he just has a hard time seeing it on you. And, the asymetrical thing will fade once he realize he likes it. We're just program to think in parellel and evenness.
I wouldn't I don't think just because I think even if I loved the dress, it would be ruined for me in my mind thinking that he didn't like it. Even though he may end up loving it ON ME, I'm so neurotic anyway that i know the whole time I would be like OMG HE THINKS I LOOK BAD HE THINKS I LOOK BAD. Not worth the internal struggle for me personally.
Go for the dress. It is beautiful!
I showed my FI my dress online but on a bride that wore it not the model and he didn't like it at all. I was a bit disappointed by his reaction but when I showed him the model in it, he changed his mind. Even so, I know the dress will look different on me then what it does on the model and other bride. I truly believe once your FI sees you in the dress, he won't be thinking about it at all!
Before I read this post I was dying to know what Mr. M would think of my dress and I was thinking about showing him a bunch with mine being one of them (he doesn't want me to show him ANYTHING) but now I've decided not too - I love my dress and he will love me in it on the day!
As many have said guys really aren't really fashion gurus!
If you think he'll get over it and love it anyway, buy it.
I'm afraid I'll be in a similar situation. When we first got engaged I made him click through hundreds of pictures telling me what he liked and didn't. Unfortunately, every dress he liked, I hated and vice versa.
While I wish I didn't care and that I doesn't matter, it does. It's hard for me to feel great wearing a wedding dress (anything for that matter) that my FI doesn't like or doesn't think looks good on me.
Now that I've heard the reason, I voted buy it! The way the model is standing and the flower make the neckline look much more assymetrical than it really is. The assymetry on the dress in the straight-on photo looks pretty and subtle. Also, he's worried about how it will fit you, but you've SEEN it on you. If you are happy with the way it looks, I'm sure he will be, too. Go for it - you'll be gorgeous!
Kate I think the dress is beautiful and you need to follow your instincts on it. I am curious why he has seen the dress though, and why you have decided to show him ahead of time? I went the old fashioned route where he didn't see it til The Day.
I bought a dress that I think he'll adore, as he should. :p
He knows no details about the dress, though he has said that if it's strapless he'll "shark attack" me. If he does that, I will kill him. :p
(And for anyone who doesn't know what shark attack means, it's when someone's wearing something strapless and somebody else yanks it down, exposing the 'ladies.' lol)
@Flamingo~ We're already married. :) In fact, we'll be married for 6 years this Sunday. :) We eloped back then, then we planned on having a large reception afterwards...well, I ended up getting pregnant two months after we got married. So, here we are 6 years later planning a vow renewal for next October. I showed it to him, because I needed the money to buy it. I'm a stay at home mommy and my daughter doesn't pay all that well. So, I figured I would show him what I was buying and then go ahead and get it...Ummm Nope! He hated it, now I'm freaked out. He just told me on the phone that he wished I had never shown him. That makes two of us buddy!
TO give you an idea of what he likes, he likes this JCrew dress.
fulllengthshot.jpg (31.2 KB, 39 downloads) 2 years old 
that jCrew dress is gorgeou, but you need to get what YOU love on you. The Lela is incredible.
Personally, I think that I would just get the dress. I think it's gorgeous and when he sees it on you, he's going to love it. When you see the dress on the dress form, it doesn't even look like the neckline is asymmetrical--I think it's just the way the model is standing that makes it appear like that. I think she's just leaning or something.
Honestly, I love the dress and I think it's totally your style. I think you should get it.
Get the dress if you love it. it's gorgeous.
guys don't picture very well. it'll also look different once you've accessorized it. i've tried on dresses for my fi that he's indifferent about. once i actually accessorized, got dressed up properly he loved the outfit!
I think if you love it, get it. To be honest I did not show any inspiration pics to my DH so I wouldnt worry about it - if I did and he didnt like something I dont think I wouldve gotten it but that just me! I do think the dress is beautiful though!
Ahh this is so tough. My fiance actually helped me design my dress entirely. At first, before I ever tried on a wedding gown, he had a vision which turned out to be something he ended up hating!!!!
He really thought a dress that hugged my curves and pushed my chest up would be amazing ... but than I tried on the silhouette which I custom made my dress based on ... and it's the ONE! Lol.
Personally, I would never involve my guy (or any guy for that matter) in shopping or any opinions about fashion. With the exception of some men, they just don't get it. My FI usually makes jokes about what I wear - like if I put on a striped shirt, he'll call me a pirate.
I think you should pick the dress that you like - I mean, you're the one who has to wear it all day right? Oh, and I love the dress you've selected. It's very classy and feminine.
the inspiration pic w/ the pleating and the flower is not symmetrical, but balanced - the dip in the neckline is balanced nicely by the flower. But your other picture didn't include the flower- i think it'd be strange w/ out it. I love that dress w/ the flower. But you know, the jcrew dress your man likes is pretty nice too <3
I would because my guy knows nothing about fashion. He still has clothes from the early 1990's when he was in college (think colored denim stripped shirts) and thinks nothing is wrong with them. And he is the man that has about 50 Harley Davidson tshirts.
@Melissabegins~I like the flower too. I actually have an email in to the store about the flower and if it's included and just not photographed. It was a sample or an overstock that I'm buying, so I want to check that first.
Oh and the JCrew dress is one of my absolute faves as well, but the sequins are a little weird for a beach ceremony, even though they are matte and it's in the evening. Right? Oh and it's twice the price!
Oh dear this is a hard question... personally I think your wedding dress is entirely about you and your style and what makes you feel gorgeous. I know it's his vow renewal too, but you shouldn't change your dress choice to make him happy...
But having said that it would bother me if I knew the whole time that my fiance hated my dress.
I bet he'll change his mind when he sees it on you...
(Btw I love Lela Rose too... her designs are the perfect combination of elegance and simiplicity...)
Guys don't know fashion, so YES I actually did buy a dress he didnt want me to buy!! We watch say yes to the dress and he's commented that he doesnt like mermaid dresses, but I LOVE THEM!!! So when i went dress shopping all I tried on were mermaid dresses! So I fell in love with a Jim Hjlem dress and bought it!! I'm sure he'll love it once he sees me in it...it accentuates my ASSets!!
@jingle~ My hubs is not a fan of the "mermaidy" dress either, but he likes the JCrew dress above. Boys are weird.
You must log in to post.
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Create the honeymoon of your dreams.
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| MissBoPeep | 56 |
| hisgoosiegirl | 39 |
| ndreighton | 38 |
| akp0702 | 37 |
| Mrs.KMM | 36 |
| beargoose | 34 |
| BetterSherm | 31 |
| Gemstone | 29 |
| Beckster329 | 28 |
| stardustintheeyes | 27 |
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| longtime_no_Si | 7 |
| capergrrl | 6 |
| pengoala | 5 |
| sopranokris | 5 |
| sarahbabs | 4 |
| Nessa2012 | 4 |
| Mrs.KMM | 3 |
| krisanne | 3 |
| kristijana | 3 |
| Lyndzo | 3 |
