Recently I posted something on FB in which I referred to my husband and "hubs". I don't usually call him "hubby" or "hubs", but I was in a hurry and wrote the post on my phone. But whatever, anyway, my friend commented on my post and said "Please don't ever say "Hubs" again... ewwww". Then she wrote her own post and said, "By liking this status, you agree to never use the terms "wifey," "hubby," or "hubs" in a non-ironic way. Take the pledge."
Now, she really is a close friend, but she has a tendency to be a condescending, judgemental bitch and I hate that about her. Should I call her out on her rude post or just ignore it? What would you say?
Ugh. I mean I don't like those terms however I'd never do something like that because it's beyond rude and passive-aggressive. I'd probably say something on her status like, "I'll call my hubs and tell him to get right on that."
I would post a passive agressive status saying "Take this pledge saying that you won't tell other people what they can and cannot call their significant others. I, for one, love my hubbywubby!"
@peasantsong: does she give a reason why she feels that you can't refer to your dh as such? i'd probably ignore it or maybe tell her that she can't dictate what you call your own husband.
I wouldn't be able to just ignore that statement completely, because that has got to be beyond irritating. I would private message her , beacuse i dont like when people argue on Fb it's just too 7th grade for me. So if you private message her, don't stoop to her level and put your business on there, and ask her what's the problem with calling him that? And why would she have a problem with what you call your DH anyway?
I would post "Why?" under her comment on your status to see her explanation.
I would completely ignore the post she made on her own wall.
@jmaze: It is childish. But now I feel embarassed and like defending myself. My first instinct is to not say anything though, so I agree with you. I will just ignore it.
@peasantsong: I've had friends post passive-aggressive stuff about being in relationships, men, etc. Shortly after my FI and I started dating, one "close" girlfriend of mine posted something along the lines of "I dont need a man to make me complete. I'm loving my life as is: going with my friends, being fabulous, spending money on things I shouldnt, and being single."
Uhm, it actually just screams "I'm lonely!" Your friend's post is stupid, and that's exactly how she'll look to everyone who sees it.
I actually second @jocember's suggestion.. hilarious AND sarcastic!!
@jmaze: +1
Op if you chose to say something you are going to sound just as childish as she is. Be the adult here and ignore her
@peasantsong: I would delete it on fb because that's just plain rude. and I'd also ask her in private in a calm way what was up with that post. Problem with fb is that sometimes jokes get lost in text. Maybe she was joking, maybe she was being rude, you won't know until you ask he straight on. Tell her it hurt your feelings bcs you felt judged by her.
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If I responded to every annoying post on facebook I wouldn't do anything else with my time. Immaturity should not be countered with more immaturity.
Also: "she really is a close friend, but she has a tendency to be a condescending, judgemental bitch and I hate that about her"
Then, why are you friends with her?
Nothing productive ever comes out of arguing on Facebook.
I would ignore it.
No. She is acting like a child. Don't feed into it and hopefully everyone else will ignore her post too so she sees how lame and hateful it is (doubt it).
@peasantsong: If she is a close friend and has a tendency to do this type of thing to you, tell her. Ask her to stop. Sometimes people don't realize that some things they do or say are upsetting to others, until they're directly told.
I loved Full House growing up, and the best lesson I learned from that show is "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"
Let me guess, your friend is single?
I'd ignore her. I'd also take the pledge if I used facebook. That's because I like to take a stand against certain words, not to piss you off.
I'd realise it was only facebook and move on :) be friends, don't be friends, just don't play it out on Facebook like 14 year old school girls. Seriously, me the bigger person and just ignore her. If she's so judgemental, don't be friends with her.
My aunt is like that in a sense.. Always has to say something negative if she agrees with something I post.... SO I blocked her from seeing my status posts.. She's still my FB friend and she can still see and comment my pics, but she cannot see the statuses I post.. She would respond with something rude, so I would write back, and then it would turn into this bicker fest for everyone to see... I got tired of it, so I solved the problem
The reason I'm friends with her....Well, that’s kind of hard to explain to someone who doesn’t know me or her. I should say that although she has a tendency to be a condescending and judgemental bitch, she’s not always like that. I hate that part of her because she can be really spiteful and mean, but she can also be very loving, kind, and in the past has been a great support during times when I have struggled. She is my oldest friend.
Also, I’m not going to start an argument on facebook. I will probably text her later and tell her that I thought she was super rude to post that. I just saw it though and I was mad and I wanted to have a witty comeback. I didn’t say anything though.
Why are you friends with her?? I wouldn't say anything to her because that would just cause more drama than its worth and honestly I think we all have enough drama in our lives without adding to it unnecessarily. I would ignore it and move one..Ok so that's my mature side saying all that lol if I were PMSing or in superbitch mode I might make some obnoxious status: I love my hubbywubby sooo much!! I'm so glad I get to be my hubby's wifey :)
I feel bad for others that have to be so judgemental about other people's lives all the time. It's just a reflection on how little they have going on in their lives.
I want to slowly kill people with a plastic spoon whenever I hear those terms BUT I would never ever tell someone not to use it. Especially not on stoopid FB. Call her out.
That is so annoying!! I don't think anyone can understand how obnoxious it is unless you have a passive aggressive friend. Mine drives me so crazy but at the same time we've grown up together and I love her.
She's been having trouble finding someone and my bf and I just bought a house and are in the process of choosing a ring. She makes obnoxious comments ALLLL the time. The other night she sent me this meme saying "The smarter the woman the harder it is to find the right man". Taken out of context maybe it's nothing, but knowing her I have to ask whyyy not send that to your single friends. Why would I find that funny?
I think you should call her out. I keep it to myself way too often but her stupid comments bother me and it affects our friendship. Talk to your friend about the things that bother you and if she's really your friend then hopefully she'll stop.
Well. I think calling your husband "hubs" is like calling sandwiches "sammies" or appetizers "appies." *vomits*
However, it's your own damn choice. I think she was being funny/sarcastic, and you are for some reason taking her VERY seriously. This is the problem with Facebook/the Internet. People get upset over things they shouldn't, and they take things the wrong way. Anyway -- ignore her. It's her choice to NOT use those words, and to be sort of rude/sarcastic about it. It's your choice TO use those words. Whatevs. lol.
Wow, what a big baby! Ignore her. If you want to call your husband FartyMcLoveFace, that's your prerogative and nobody else's business.
I think posts like the one she made as her status are REALLY annoying but people have the right to post whatever they want.. I dislike when people tell other people what to post and what not to post; however annoying, passive-aggresive and immature her posts are, she has the right to make them. If I were you, i'd ignore her, take her off of my "notifications list" so that I wouldn't have to see any more of the annoying stuff that she posts and if she's this bad all the time, i'd consider phasing her out as a friend. She sounds more like a frenemy than a good friend who supports you and makes you feel good!
I would probably call her out in person next time you see her. It sounds like she's forgotten that stuff on the Internet has real life consequences.
I would probably just start referring to him as "hubs" in every status thereafter. Just cuz.
what a bitch. Saying anything won't help the situation though you'll end up in a bigger fight than what it's worth but on the post SHE commented on I'd def stand my ground and say it's not up to you to ask or tell people not to call their SO's or HB/WF anything. The fact that she posted about it on her FB the way she did is beyond childish.
I'd ignore it. But definitely continue to refer to yourself in the third person as "wifey" and him as "hubs."
@peasantsong: I would just ignore it. Honestly, it is not worth starting FB drama over it which sounds that is what your friend is trying to do. Take the high road on this one! 
@MissCalifornia: Exactly this! I'd post in there saying just what she said to say
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