Should I call the police?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

This is hard because you don’t know what was happening to make the kid say “ow” and spanking your kid isn’t illegal.  BUT if there is something else and more serious going on, they want all the testimony they can to formulate a pattern of abuse.  I guess I would call to be on the safe side and just explain to the dispatcher what you heard and let them decide what to do.  They don’t HAVE to come investigate it just based on a call, do they?  I don’t actually know how it works but I think if something happened to that kid (even way in the future, not just today) you’d toss and turn for a while.  And it’s no skin off your back to call.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would definitely document when you guys here the yelling going on.  You may get a better sense of what is happening if you see it all out in front of you. 

 

I’d probably call the non emergency number and explain to the person what is going on.  

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Personally, if i was unsure, I think I would call the cops, only because it involves children. Worse case, nothing is happening and the guy is annoyed

ETA – just read your update, glad it all sounds better now

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Do you know the names of any of these people?  I don’t know what the police will do but I suggest calling CPS in your area and making a report.  Even if you don’t have the names of all parties involved, you have the guy’s address.  Describe what you’ve overheard.

I feel terrible for that kid.  His parents sound like selfish assholes (based on the small piece of information you’ve provided)

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If nothing bad is really happening, it’ll become clear, they’ll have nothing to hide, and they’ll know their behavior is setting off alarm bells around them and can try and settle down a bit.

I know my family was a little over-yell-ish at times, and I could imagine from the way we would carry on someone might get the wrong idea, but the worst that would happen if someone had called the cops would have been that they’d talk to my parents, talk to me, I’d get a mild scolding for being loud (I don’t think my dad was even aware of how loud he got when he was mad, he didn’t mean any harm, he was just loud) I’d tell them everything was fine, they’d take a look around and see nothing unusual, and it’d all blow over.

So I feel like, is there really anything to lose? If there’s abuse happening, it should be uncovered. If there’s not, what’s the worst thing that could happen? The cops tell them to quiet down? 

You don’t need to make direct accusations when you call, just tell them exactly what you hear, and that you’re worried.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@StL.Ashley:  I’m sorry, I know this is a serious thread, but this: just ordered pizza (Medium half pepperoni, half cheese) made me giggle. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

@StL.Ashley:  I say call them (if you havent already) its better safe than sorry right?

I just read your reply about how everything seems fine. So yes i would let it go for now, but the next time you hear somethign or even whenthey are screaming in the parking lot, i would call. I work in a mall and everytime a couple screams at eachother we have to call the cops for a domestic dispute. usually just tells them to calm down and let them know that is not ok. But other times it turned out to be more serious so you never know.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I wouldn’t unless I heard like a SLAP then “ow”, My 3.5 year old says “OW” all the time even though he’s not hurt, If he’s getting in trouble and we walk him over to time out he’ll yell “OW!” being dramatic.

I was at my uncles house once and the 7 year old was a terror, having a super fit, throwing things, breaking stuff, screaming, (She did this often when she didn’t get something she wanted) and my aunt took her and locked her in her room until she was done raging out. Well the neighborshood heard it and called the police and the girl was removed from their home that night. It took them 6 months of legal junk and CPS loops to get her back even though everyone told them the truth, even my little neice. It’s not always as simple as they’ll see nothing is wrong and just leave.

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The cops honestly won’t be able to do anything accept a noise complaint 🙁

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think that if you have any concerns you should call.  It may be nothing, but if its not you are in the best position of anyone to hear and help out this familiy.  Even if it after the fact, just to let you know that you live in the building and are worried about the family.  I am a mandated reporter for child abuse and I have never ever regretted calling even if it turned out nothing bad was happening.  

In some cases the department of children and families will help connect families with resources (parenting classes, SNAP if they are eligible and money is an issue…).  I once called because a 7 year old told me she was left home alone, what she didn’t say (but the investigation uncovered) that her father was sexually abusing her.  In another case I called because a boy was acting funny and saying he was scared to go home.  Turns out his back was covered in bruises and the caseworker said it was the worst case of abuse she’d seen in a decade.  And plenty of other cases turned out to be nothing but if you have a chance to alert someone to a potentially dangerous situation I say do it.  If they have nothing to hide its just a minor annoyance.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would hesitate.  Getting CPS involved if nothing is going on can be a nightmare for the family, and even if things aren’t great, the little boy could be removed to the foster system, which has no promise of being better for him.  Also, I don’t know about where you live, but where I am, cops and CPS are way, way harder on families of colour, and if these folks are minorities of any kind, that might be opening up a world of problems they don’t need and won’t be in the best interest of the little boy.  It’s not always as simple as, “if they’re doing nothing wrong, then they have nothing to hide.”  Unfortunately, you don’t really have any evidence, and it could be that the dude is doing his best but having a rough go with the kid’s mom.  It’s hard to say from what you’ve posted here.

Personally, I wouldn’t.  But if you feel like you have to, then do what you have to do.

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