@lifesaver08: Awww, sounds like a real dilly of a pickle. Good morning, I agree with the bee who said finding a job that you love, with a boss & coworkers that you get along with can be very difficult. She’s RIGHT!
You sound quite young, so am I, but I’ve had many many jobs, 14 to be exact. I’ve had that kind of harmony in ONE and unfortunately I was laid off from it. In most jobs, I simply kept them to survive and as a means to an end. Your happiness and sanity is worth so much more than a larger paycheck, in my experiences. My personal take on it is that unless I’m making a significantly larger amount of money in another position, then leaving one that I’m happy with wouldn’t be worth it, by siginificant I mean $15K more annually. A few thousand dollars a year will likely not change your life, because it won’t be large of enough for you to feel a markedly different impact immediately.
I wasted so much time chasing a degree & the typical office career, whenever I landed what I thought was my “big break,” I HATED my job, I HATED my boss because she was a ridiculously controlling B*TCH! And the only great thing there were my coworkers, I was miserable. I even hated where I worked and that poison seemed into my relationship, which made me hate that too. I never had any vacation time because I used it all up to allow myself extended weekends all throughout those years; Seriously, miserable. Now that I’m older & a teeny bit wiser, I’m going back to school for my cosmetology certificate. It’s what I like to do and there is always the option to strike out on your own, independently, I like that aspect most. I don’t care that I’ll make less money, the reality is that I’ve survived on less before & what I lose in $$$, I’ll gain in peace of mind.
And just a random fact for your information, I searched one day for something pertaining to how much money is enough money or average living needs/wants, etc. I came upon an article that determined through a statistical study that $40K was typically what most Americans needed to live comfortably(assuming you live in America.) I find that really believable. In most areas of the country $40K would be comfortable, but if you want posh, then perhaps we’d need to bump it up to $65K or so. I encourage you to think about what your goal earnings are over the span of your career. This way you’ll have some basis of measurement that is more about self and less about which offer is on the table. If someone had told me that long before starting college, I’m sure my stay would’ve been MUCH shorter! Lol, then again, who knows as there were lots of jello shots.
If you actually NEED more money perhaps you could make some through a hobby, I have so many talents that I never observed as earning potential whenever I was younger. For instance, I now throw upscale children’s parties & interestingly enough, it pays pretty well. You’d be surprised at all the things that people will pay you to do!
Sorry my reply ended up being so long, but it’s something I’m very passionate about. I hope you map out what’s right for you my fellow bee & good luck.