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    morgan_e_johnson    June 19 2010   chicago

    I have had a series of threads about my dress..  I went shopping alone to avoid overbearing opinons, found a dress I absolutely loved!..pics posted in me in my dress thread.  And I showed it to my mom and she absolutely hates it!  She said it looks like a miss america dress.  I didn't think so.. and I love the dress but of course she's making me have second thoughts..i don't want people to think i look like ms america!

    Help!

     
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    BAbride    Aug 2010   San Francisco

    hmmm i saw your pictures and I can see your mom's concern about it looking like a miss americca dress...but like you said---YOU love the dress...and that's all that matters! As long as you feel beautiful in your dress, then I think you have your answer! :)

    Well, another option is if you have $$ in your budget for it, you could be a two dress bride! :)

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    your mom probably envisioned you wearing a poofy cinderella dress down the aisle (you are here baby :D)... i had the same issue with my mother years ago when i was engaged before. she HATED my dress and said it was too plain. i would go shopping with your mom and try on other dresses with her if you can. she may feel left out of the experience as well.  also you can tell her that your dress has a strict no return policy so you'll be out of extra cash if you don't wear it and have to buy another and see what she says.  you can check out the classified's section or even davids as well to see if you can find a very inexpensive dress to wear for your mom and then wear your dress to the reception (just options I think that your dress is gorgeous as well but from experience it's easy to just make the mom's happy) let's just say this go around she'll be shopping with me to make my life easier :D

     
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    jocelyn3476       New Jersey

    Your dress is gorgeous and you were so excited about it!  Don't let anyone rain on your parade.

    Your dress is more glam than a traditional wedding dress, but that is just a reflection of what you like!  Unless you get on a stage with an oversized bouquet of long stem flowers, don a crown and wave like the Queen of England, you won't look like Miss America.  You are going to be getting married!  You will look like a trendy, glam, bride.  If you want to please your mother, get a really traditional, long veil for the ceremony.

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    Morgan, you have to trust your instinct on this... I've never seen a dress more perfect for an individual.  I think you know by the reactions of people here that your mom may have missed the mark on this one...   Moms have really strange expectations for our wedding dresses, but usually by the time we get married they come around (speaking from experience!)

     
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    lilyfaith    June 23, 2012   Lakeview, Chicago

    I just looked at your pictures - you look breathtaking in that dress! 

    If you love it, she will come around to it. The important thing is that you feel amazing in it. 

     
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    alishaneva    May 2011   Lancaster, PA

    That dress looks absolutely gorgeous on you - if you love it, that's really all that matters! Ask her why she thinks it looks like a Miss America dress ... I think it looks beautiful on you and if you love it then you should stick with it - don't just go buying another dress you may not feel as wonderful in just to make mom happy ... trust me!

     
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    Lish    October 10th, 2009   Memphis, TN

    What do your friends say?
    It looks like it fits you well - not many people have a body that can pull that off and you do.
    If you try it on again, more than likely your response will tell you how you really feel about the dress.
    I made sure to always try them on two separate days to get my real impression - try going back and seeing how it makes you feel.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Um i love your dress. I think it's elegant and chic! And looks AMAZING on yoru body. I don't think you should change your dress just to make mom happy. I mean, our moms have this 80's mentality still, right?! Seriously, my mom gives me the weirdest fashion tips. Maybe she just thought you'd go a different route.

    Do what makes you happy. You have to wear it and keep the pictures of it. I think it's glam =]

    I think your mom is crazy not to like your dress =]

     
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    Chachacha    June 2010   Minneapolis, MN

    I think your dress looks absolutely fantastic on you!!! And you love it! So I think you need to explain to your mom why you chose the dress. You can go with her to try on other dresses but you really like the one you already have and that you will be out some money if you choose to go with another dress. I think you should stick with the one you already got, I love it on you!!!

     
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    KitKat555    May 21, 2011   Ohio

    I love that dress on you. & if it fits what you pictured yourself in then thats all that matters. I'm wearing a similar dress. Very slim through the bottom. My mom also mentioned that she thought is should be a little fuller to look more wedding like. I ordered it alittle longer so I can add some kind of tool underneith for a more fuller skirt area. (only because I also agreed with her) If that is something that could work If it's really important to you what your mom thinks; I would maybe try it and see if it looks more wedding appropriate for her. If your only interested in my opinion of the dress the way it is; I say Stick with it; I love it on you!

     
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    hotchildinthecity    June 12, 2010   New York, NY

    I love your dress on you!

    Moms often have very different fashion tastes than we do.  Regarding clothes/accessories, I either take my mom's opinions with a grain of salt, or politely ignore them ;o)

     
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    flamingred    June 19, 2010  

    The dress looks spectacular,and if i didn't think so i wouldn't post (because when you don't have anything nice to say...)

    Also-I think Miss Americas used to have be either a black or white evening dress..with that said I guess we all look like Miss America!

    *waves

     
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    ariellebride    9/5/10   Boston MA

    you do not look like a pageant princess! you look absolutely amazing. i LOVE your dress.

     
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    formerlybuttons    June 5, 2010  

    I think the dress looks beautiful on you, and it doesn't look Miss America at all!!  I have to agree with previous posters -- we have such different taste from our mothers, and that's ok.  As long as you LOVE the dress (and it sounds like you do!).  In the end, your mom wants you to have a dress that you love and will feel beautiful wearing.  Btw, I had to stop dress-shopping with my mom because she HATED the dresses I was picking out (mermaid, trumpet) and wanted me in a big ballgown!

     
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    morgan_e_johnson    June 19 2010   chicago

    thanks for the advice ladies, just an update I decided to keep the dress..she is going to fly up to help me pick out my veil and accessories and hopefully that will help her feel more included .. she's agreed not to continue to harp on the fact that she doesn't like it

     
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    meliss    May 31, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Yay! Good decision. Happy for you!

     
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    farfromordinarybride    December 31, 2010   PA

    I agree you have to choose what makes YOU feel beautiful. The last thing you want is to be wearing someone else's vision of what you should be, even if it's mom.

    You look fabulous by the way!

     
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    stellar1126    June 19, 2010   Los Angeles

    Congrats. I'm glad it worked out for you. My mom at times has very strong opinions about what my wedding should look like and the problem is her ideas would be spot on if we were in the 70's. LOL. So understand that our parents are from a different time and perhaps that's why she might miss her mark at times.

     
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    ariellebride    9/5/10   Boston MA

    I will be so depressed if you choose another dress! Your dress is amazing and you look beautiful in it! It is so perfect for you

     
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    ariellebride    9/5/10   Boston MA

    I guess I'm a little late..but I'm so glad you decided to stay with it! Congrats

     

     

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