Post # 1
I am having a dilemma! My FH and I went ring shopping together and I picked out a lovely Simon G design. I tried it on with a 2ct stone and loved it! When he bought the ring, he had a jeweler make it (which is fine, although I really wanted the EXACT one I saw) and when he made it he made the band a little wider, which I don’t like as much but could live with IF the center stone were bigger. He purchased a VVS F color (this thing is really white) 1.2 ct stone. I just cant get over the smaller stone with the thicker band. When I asked him about the stone, he said he went for quality or size. With the thicker band; however, it looks even smaller to me.
I told him that I want to have the setting “altered” to which he responded “its your ring you should have what you want” (and I thought then why didn’t you get me what I asked for in the first place). I went back out ring shopping and found a totally different style ring that I never thought I would like (because I am traditional I really wanted a simpler solitaire with a high setting) and then I saw this puppy and kinda fell in love. With the second setting, I think I could be happy with the current center stone but with the current setting, I would have to go bigger and I just don’t think that my FH is willing to spend that kind of $$ right now. We are trying to buy a house and having a wedding in 7 months…what do you guys think?
Check out the pics below…These are website pics and not the actual rings. The first is my ring but with slightly thicker band and smaller stone and the second is my new love.
Post # 3
Well, I think 1.2 is already “big” so.. I have a 1 ct in a very wide band and I honestly can’t imagine a larger stone… And I’m 5’11” so I have Looong fingers and “large” hands.
What if you just had the original band thinned a bit?
Post # 4
Well… he probably had the jeweler remake the setting rather than buying the Simon G one because it was probably much cheaper to do it that way. Ultimately you can do whatever you and your FI feel happy with doing and can spend. My opinion though? You have a beautiful ring with a really nice sized stone…. it is a symbol of love not a status symbol. Focus on more important things like your marriage or buying a house and forget about wanting to look like you have the biggest rock possible on your hand.
Post # 5
I think you should wait and change the setting on an anniversary if it is that important to you. Buying a house and paying for a wedding are major expenses and I know I couldn’t justify “tweaking” my engagement ring at the sane time.
Post # 6
I have a much smaller ring and can’t imagine not being happy with a 1.2 c diamond! I think you have the right to be happy but with a house and a wedding I would stick with what’s important. The rock is nice but you can always upgrade in the years to come!
Post # 7
I agree that 1.2 is already big, my center stone is around a half carat. Do you have a picture of your actual ring with the wider band? Like CorgiTales said, you can do what you want but just don’t overspend and honestly? I like the first one better.
Post # 8
@KLP2010: I actually had been thinking about that as an option, thinning the band, it is pave…do you think that a jeweler could do that?
Post # 9
I would wait on getting a new ring. It seems like he is okay with changing it, but since you are currently working on getting a house and planning a wedding, I wouldn’t say now is the right time.
Post # 10
@CorgiTales: I agree 100%.
@bride313: Sounds like he put a lot of thought into the ring in getting it made and picking quality over size with the diamond. Focus on what the ring symbolizes and what you are embarking on together. Then if you still aren’t happy with it after the wedding, ask for a change to the ring for your anniversary. A 1.2 c stone is by no means small, and the higher quality the stone the bigger they seem to look because of the sparkle they have.
Post # 11
@KatNYC2011: thanks guys! I have a call in to the jeweler about thinning the band. I really am happy with my ring, I hit it a lot on things because of the high prongs and that is where the more flush ring came in.
But you guys are so great. I do love my ring, thanks for reminding me why! If I could thin about the band, it will be perfect!!
Post # 12
What is a “big” stone is definitely subjective-if you like a bigger stone, that’s FINE!! Whether you think 1.2 is big or small it is smaller than what you tried and I think the issue is that you had an idea of what it would look like and it’s different. That’s ok, but I think you’ve got it in perspective…the $$ it would cost to upgrade or change the ring isn’t as important as having the wedding of your dreams or buying first your home together.
My suggestion is to enjoy the ring that you have, as it is a symbol of the love and committment that you two share, and worry about changing it after the next two milestones (wedding and home)! It’ll be another milemarker in your future together!!
CONGRATS and good luck, I’m sure your ring is GORGEOUS!!
Post # 13
@diva81esq: You ladies are really the sweetest ever!! 🙂
Post # 14
I don’t LOVE my ring. FI said I could reset it, but when I started thinking about it, I realized I’d rather have the ring he proposed with than the (looks-wise) ring of my dreams. You might be different, but think about that at least.