(Closed) Should I change my ring? Im so torn!!

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well, I think 1.2 is already “big” so.. I have a 1 ct in a very wide band and I honestly can’t imagine a larger stone… And I’m 5’11” so I have Looong fingers and “large” hands.

What if you just had the original band thinned a bit?

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Well… he probably had the jeweler remake the setting rather than buying the Simon G one because it was probably much cheaper to do it that way. Ultimately you can do whatever you and your FI feel happy with doing and can spend. My opinion though? You have a beautiful ring with a really nice sized stone…. it is a symbol of love not a status symbol. Focus on more important things like your marriage or buying a house and forget about wanting to look like you have the biggest rock possible on your hand. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you should wait and change the setting on an anniversary if it is that important to you. Buying a house and paying for a wedding are major expenses and I know I couldn’t justify “tweaking” my engagement ring at the sane time.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have a much smaller ring and can’t imagine not being happy with a 1.2 c diamond!  I think you have the right to be happy but with a house and a wedding I would stick with what’s important.  The rock is nice but you can always upgrade in the years to come! 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree that 1.2 is already big, my center stone is around a half carat.  Do you have a picture of your actual ring with the wider band? Like CorgiTales said, you can do what you want but just don’t overspend and honestly? I like the first one better.

Post # 9
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5658 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would wait on getting a new ring. It seems like he is okay with changing it, but since you are currently working on getting a house and planning a wedding, I wouldn’t say now is the right time.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@CorgiTales: I agree 100%.

 

@bride313: Sounds like he put a lot of thought into the ring in getting it made and picking quality over size with the diamond. Focus on what the ring symbolizes and what you are embarking on together. Then if you still aren’t happy with it after the wedding, ask for a change to the ring for your anniversary. A 1.2 c stone is by no means small, and the higher quality the stone the bigger they seem to look because of the sparkle they have.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

What is a “big” stone is definitely subjective-if you like a bigger stone, that’s FINE!!  Whether you think 1.2 is big or small it is smaller than what you tried and I think the issue is that you had an idea of what it would look like and it’s different.  That’s ok, but I think you’ve got it in perspective…the $$ it would cost to upgrade or change the ring isn’t as important as having the wedding of your dreams or buying first your home together.  

My suggestion is to enjoy the ring that you have, as it is a symbol of the love and committment that you two share, and worry about changing it after the next two milestones (wedding and home)!  It’ll be another milemarker in your future together!!

CONGRATS and good luck, I’m sure your ring is GORGEOUS!!   

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t LOVE my ring.  FI said I could reset it, but when I started thinking about it, I realized I’d rather have the ring he proposed with than the (looks-wise) ring of my dreams.  You  might be different, but think about that at least.

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