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I debated with changing into a sari for the going away... but, since we weren't doing an official exit, I didn't see the point. Plus, I figured this was the ONE time I'd get to wear a dress.
I don't think there is a 'wrong' answer here, honestly. I'd ask your family and see if they will be upset if you are not acknowledging your culture by not changing. I'm sure some of the traditional relatives will notice it and possibly make comments, but it's not that big of a deal.
Some of the fusion can come in from the dress of your relatives, don't you think? We had a handful of people wearing sari and it was beautiful. If I were to start planning all over again, I'd skip the dress and find a sari to wear (and then change into a fun cocktail dress for the reception). But, that's pretty much because I hated dress shopping and the entire dress experience (alterations, sizing, etc.)... I can understand why you'd want to stay in a dress the whole time - especially if you LOVE your dress!!
Are there other ways or traditions you can bring into the ceremony or reception so it's not all Western...
Hey Pree!
I grew up ultra American too and only wear Indian attire for temple! I am totally obsessed with my dress too! I can't imagine how anyone would ever want to take their dresses off! I want to wear mine to my honeymoon! Unfortunately we have this crazy culture that seems to sometimes run our life and conflict in huge ways with our wants. My FI and I (both Hindu) are opting for a small Hindu ceremony on Friday and the big white dress ceremony on Saturday. This way I will wear the lehnga all day and nothing can be said the next day. Unfortunately you know Indian families and how they LOVE to gossip and make mountains out of mole hills so unless you want to live when your great aunt's cousin telling her children how you have lost your culture (lol!) then you have to oblige them in some way! Even if it is just having an Indian themed rehersal dinner or family get together the day before where you wear the Indian get up!
In my culture, the groom's family provides a trauseau. So my MIL has found the perfect wedding sari for me. It is lovely, just not what I always dreamed of as my wedding dress. So, with as many events as we have, I decided to wear the MIL gifted Sari for the ceremony (it is the shorter event) and I will be wearing my chosen lengha for the reception, which will allow me to move around as I please.
Maybe you could bring in culture in other ways? Mendhi with your white dress like Mrs. Spaniel? Or maybe Indian jewelery like bangles and a tikka? I personally think that would look goregeous but it obviously depends on your overall look.
Do whatever makes you happy.* I was born and raised in the US but am Indian (hindu-jain). My husband is Swedish. He was totally happy doing a civil wedding in Sweden, so I had a beautiful white gown and the big fat wedding in India.
I LOVE Indian clothes. I swear, I would have bought and worn more if I could. So if you love your dress, then hey, wear it! But if you love Indian clothes too, this is your chance to get something amazing.
*Also do whatever that will avoid the most amount of whining by family members in the futre.
@Pree: Congrats on your recent wedding! I was just wondering what you ended up doing? I grew up ultra-American as well and I have only worn a sari about 2 other times in my life. We are having our ceremony at the same place we are having the reception so I did not think I would change. However, my family (my mom) really wants me to change at the reception. I don't mind since my wedding dress is super poufy so at least I can go sleek for the reception part. My biggest concern though, is, that I am not going to be able to move around or dance at the reception as easily as I could with a cocktail dress or 2nd wedding gown. I am going to start practicing wearing a sari and heels around the house but I just wanted see how everything ended up going for you. Take care and congrats again!
@Pree: Congrats on your recent wedding! I was just wondering what you ended up doing? I grew up ultra-American as well and I have only worn a sari about 2 other times in my life. We are having our ceremony at the same place we are having the reception so I did not think I would change. However, my family (my mom) really wants me to change at the reception. I don't mind since my wedding dress is super poufy so at least I can go sleek for the reception part. My biggest concern though, is, that I am not going to be able to move around or dance at the reception as easily as I could with a cocktail dress or 2nd wedding gown. I am going to start practicing wearing a sari and heels around the house but I just wanted see how everything ended up going for you. Take care and congrats again!
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I am having a huge struggle trying to figure out if I should change out of my wedding dress into a lengha for our wedding reception. I grew up in a very "Westernized" family-- so I have only worn a sari/lengha a couple of times for family occassions/weddings.
I bought a wedding dress that I am OBSESSED with...and don't really want to take it off after our short ceremony. However, I feel like I should pay respect to my culture and change into an Indian outfit at some point during the reception.
My fiance is American (and we are both Christian so getting married in a Church)so unless I bring the "fusion" into our wedding...it will seem like a pretty typical American wedding ceremony and reception.
I am personally ok with it since I am more comfortable dancing in a dress over a lengha, but I am afraid I may regret it later or get negative comments from my family.
Anyone experience the same thing?