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  • poll: What should I do about the dress?
    Wear the light blue dress, it goes fine with the formality level! : (8 votes)
    36 %
    Wear the light blue dress even though it's less formal, FMIL's trying to make the RD too formal! : (3 votes)
    14 %
    Buy something new and wear the light blue dress for the day-after brunch. : (3 votes)
    14 %
    Ask your FMIL for pete's sake! : (8 votes)
    36 %
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    worcesterbride    August 15, 2009   live in NYC, wedding in Worcester, MA

    Hey Hive,

    In the continuing saga of FMIL difficulties, I'm having a RD dress issue.

    6 months ago, I purchased this dress  to wear to the RD. I love it! However, since purchasing, it's become clear that FMIL (who is planning and paying for the RD) is picturing something much more formal than I was picturing.This past weekend, FI went home to visit his family, and while he was having the ringbearer fitted for his tux, FMIL insisted on buying FI a suit to wear to the RD. FI had been planning on wearing khakis and a blazer, and his mother told him that he needed a suit b/c khakis and a blazer weren't formal enough.

    The fact that khakis and a blazer aren't formal enough for the RD makes me think that FMIL will also find my dress too informal. But I don't want to start shopping again! And I like the dress I have! What should I do?

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Wow. That is a hecka formal RD. I think your dress is DIVINE! And just fine. Wear nice heels, get your hair french twisted up or some sweet curls and you'll be formal enough! i mean, you couldn't get much more formal unless you wore a black cocktail dress. I love that that dress is baby blue and you'll stand out by the way. Do not worry, keep what you have. You love it, that's enough. Have your FI wear a matching tie =]

     

     
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    BridetoBee2010    October 9th, 2010   Georgia

    It's so cute!!  I'm not sure if by "formal," she means you need to be wearing a long dress, but I definitely think you can dress up the one you have!  Wearing nice heels and a capped cardy over it I think would dress it up.  

     
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    EAQ219    May 22, 2010   Bethesda, MD

    I think your dress is great and perfectly formal! Do you know where the RD is being held? Could you maybe visit the place or look at their website to gauge the level of formality? Luckily, the dress wasn't *that* expensive, so unless you're on a super tight budget, you should be able to buy another dress if you want something more formal. Could you show the dress to your FMIL and ask her what she thinks? I think that would be the best route. Or maybe as her what she's wearing. Honestly, though, I love that dress and think it's just fine :)

     
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    tessabella76    September 12, 2009   Ohio

    Love the dress! It's a perfect RD dress. You can totally dress it up with accessories!

     
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    Jenniphyr    February 2, 2013   Alberta, Canada

    I can't vouch for sure on the formality level and whether or not your dress would be appropriate (although...it's a dress -- in my books, that's formal enough unless we're talking ballgown-formal!), so I would encourage you to ask your FMIL. However, I love that dress too, and I could see why you'd want to wear it anyways! =)

     
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    Miss Lily    August 1, 2008   TX

    I totally think you should wear the blue dress. It's gorgeous. who wants to have SUCH a formal RD? I think FMIL should chill and not plan something so formal.

     
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    fizicsGirl    8/1/2009   Michigan

    It's a cute dress!

    And I think it can be pretty formal with the right accessories.

    I say stick with it.  You do *not* want to be me and buying your RD dress 11 days before and then rushing to the tailor the next day.  You have plenty of other things to worry about in the next 3 weeks!

     
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    MaybeeBecca    August 22, 2009   Kansas City, MO

    I think the dress is great! And you could definitely dress it up with your accessories, hairs, shoes, make-up, etc. But I suppose it wouldn't hurt to ask the MIL just in case, especially if she's particular :-P

     
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    northernazbride    August 1, 2009   Arizona

    I love your original dress and I say wear it. You're the bride, you should get to wear whatever makes you happy and comfortable!

     
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    msbuttons    May 30, 2010   Palm Harbor, FL

    I think you could go either way! If you are creative you could dress up the light blue dress to make it more formal...or you could use it for the day after brunch (I like that idea a lot!).

     
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    lisalulu    September 19, 2009   Santa Barbara,CA

    That dress is fine. I LOVE it. Dress it up with jewlery. I'm thinking pearls. Wear heels and panty hose. Carry a nice clutch. You will look great. I like the other bee's suggestions of nice hair. A twist or curls would look great. I might buy that dress it's so great!

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    I definitely think that dress is dressy enough to wear if your FI wears a suit.  I think it's totally cute and will look perfect.  

     

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