(Closed) Should I confess or keep quiet?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: I know about the e-ring so should I...
    'fess up : (1 votes)
    1 %
    keep quiet : (93 votes)
    97 %
    other : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I’d probably keep quiet, but if you’re going to do that, you probably need to not ever tell. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with saying something, and if you’re comfortable with doing so it’s a good sign for your relationship, but it probably ruins his thought of it being a surprise, which I’d want to keep.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2578 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Keep quiet!

    Post # 5
    Member
    2459 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Let him have this, and don’t say anything, he has gone to so much effort! The only thing I need you to clarify, are you concerned the 30 day return policy will expire if you don’t say something?

    Post # 6
    Member
    12569 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think you need to decide what will weigh on you more – feeling guilty about knowing it’s coming and ruining the surprise, or feeling guilty about accidentally seeing the email.  Figure out which one you can live with, and go from there.

    Post # 7
    Member
    3645 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    The surprise is such an important part of the proposal for some many guys (just see this thread: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/he-ordered-the-ring-i-signed-for-the-delivery-hes-devastated) and let’s be honest, you would have at least had the proposal in the back of your mind during the trip anyway, so you haven’t really spoilt anything. Especially as you don’t know 100% that he will propose on the trip.

    Just don’t say anything, haven’t there been surprises in the past from people which you have caught onto and kept quiet about? I always regret telling my mum that I knew about my surprise party (I was 6 and I still feel bad). I know it’s not the same but it’s nice to let people think that they surprised us. It’s better for everyone that way.

    On a different note: How exciting!! 😀

    Post # 9
    Member
    808 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Keep quiet….You don’t know what the ring looks like and you don’t know how or exactly when he willpopthe question

    🙂

    Post # 10
    Member
    700 posts
    Busy bee

    @katlovesjames:  yup, keep quiet, i’d be over the moon if ever i found out lol. but ywah, mute is the key…..

    Post # 11
    Hostess
    2557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Keep quiet!!  Let him plan out his surprise for you.  🙂  Just because you know the ring’s been ordered and it’s going to happen soon doesn’t mean you still won’t be surprised.

    Post # 12
    Member
    370 posts
    Helper bee

    I wouldn’t say a word lol

    Post # 13
    Member
    339 posts
    Helper bee

    It sounds like you already “knew” it was coming so you shouldn’t be ruining anything!  Just keep quiet and let him live in lala land where he can think you didn’t know it was coming!  Hope goes well!!!!

    Post # 14
    Member
    4356 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Keep quiet. I saw banking information before I was engaged so I knew a large sum of money (we had a joint account) was gone. DH didn’t propose for a couple of months after I saw that, so it was still a surprise. I decided it would probably just crush him and really not accomplish anything so I kept my mouth shut.

    Post # 16
    Member
    6018 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Awww don’t steal his thunder  by telling him you know.  The guys get so little in the whole wedding planning thing … let him have this!!

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