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Has he given you a reason to suspect that he's cheating on you? Have you been cheated on in the past? It's just pictures and none of them scandalous so I would need much more info to comment.
he hasnt cheated on me that i kn of.nor do i believe he has.but then again i didnt expect to find pics of another woman.and y delete them he hasnt deleted any other email in his inbox.plus i cant get passed the reaction to th ephone
Confront him. Get it out in the open and see where it falls. You deserve the truth, always.
Isn't that good he deleted them? I mean if I was new to e-mail, I would want to get rid of stuff I didn't want to see by pressing the delete button. You're looking at this as if he's trying to hide something from you, but what if he's trying to hide something from himself? I think this is much more innocent than you think and I disagree with tess75 because I'd be PISSED if my SO snooped in my e-mail even if he had the password from me. By you confronting him, it will only backfire into an argument about you checking up on him and him needing some privacy. I would just wait until there's more evidence if you're really freaking out about this. Maybe she's a psycho ex and he just gave her his e-mail to get her to leave him alone.
There's nothing to confront him about. Just let it go. Its not a crime to receive pictures from someone or to delete them.
And the phone... I dunno. I hate when my SO looks at my phone & I'm not cheating, never will cheat, never have cheated. I'm an only child so privacy is important to me above all other basic human rights. I freak out if someone looks over my shoulder as I read a magazine or book. I also snatch my cell away from him all the time even if he's just handing it to me. Especially around his b-day or Christmas... ;)
thanks ladies,sometimes i think there is a reasonable explanation for this.but other timees my mind start playing games with me and si nce last night i.ve been trying to contact him since we got disconected to no avail.he wasnt answering our land line eventhoug i called back withing a minute of us getting disconected and he wasnt answering his phone either.am just starting to frak out.i need to go home as soon as possible.
I'm sorry but I would confront him. Not confront him like who the f** is this chick, but I would be concerned about their relationship. It sounds as though you had no idea they were friends. I know all my Fiancé friends and they know me very well.
From what you wrote he knows you check his emails so it would be stupid on his part to give her his email address knowing she would contact him and you find out. Then again I don't know your man and have run into some very unintelligent men in my life time. Also if this is on your mind bring it up. I used to harbor my feelings a lot thinking it would help when all honesty it just made things worse.
Going through his phone and his emails sounds like you are **looking** for something.
I would be more concerned with understanding why you feel the need to look for something and invade his privacy.
@7mom.
i have no clue who this woman is.u see thge thing about our relationship is that we dont really have friends of the opposite sex call us .especiallly me.iliterally have no o ne but him ,my mom ,my couisn ocassionallyor work call.ive always been this way and am sure he appreciate its because he says all the time that he respects that i dont bring any disrespect into our relationship.
we have this unspoken rule of opposite sex kinda although its not set in stone....so it is very suprising that out of the blue (at least to me cause i havnt been snooping at all)that this wo man would send him pics.
i think i will talk to him about it at some point
thanks
@bird: Fiancé and I don't have any friends of the opposite sex, unless they are mutual friends. This situation works for us and we are happy about it. Talk about that unspoken rule and make it set in stone if that is what you BOTH want. Talk about everything concerning the relationship so there are no loop holes or misunderstanding.
I wish you the best of luck with everything, take care.
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so me and my finace, of 4 months havnt been getting along for a lil while...actually i got engaged and didnt bother to come here and tell u guys because of circumstances of how it all happened(another long story for another post)so last night after yet another argument on the phone,am out of the country since the 2nd of this month.while i was up i decided to right him a heart felt email.i told him of all the things that i loved about him and then listed some of the things that were bothering me .
after some contemplation i sent it.he only recently got an email account never had one,i encouraged him to get one cause he has his business,i taught him a few things on how to use his email.anyways i know he doeesnt check it often,when i awoke this morning i went online and did some research about how to get pass hurt in a marriage and blah blah blah.i came upon this site that focused on marriage fitness and focusing on the future withoutt having to reharsh the past and it made sense,(all this has a point am getting to it) while i was online he called and we had a nice convo,so i decided to go into his account and delete tthe message i sent the night before.i was hoping to buy the cds i saw online and have us do it .i didnt want him focusing on the negative things i had written in the email seeeing that we had a good convo.
Anyaways i went into his inbox i have the password (i set it up and generally send off emails for him for his businesss and so on)i deleted the email i sent,knowing me i wanted to make sure he would never see the email so i procedded to go to the trash to delete there to,although am sure he would have never checked there because he probably wouldnt even know how to do it.low and behold i see three deleted email messages from a person (lets call her samanta)now i kn we both kn a samatha and my first impression they were from her.i wanted to kn what she may have been talking to him abaout.it wasnt from that samantha. there were three emails with pictures in them.they were not nude nor did they have any text in them apart from the name samantha.two had nothing in the subject and the other one was labeled me.
there were a few by herself,one with a friend and one with a young man maybe between 9 and 12.am not sure if its is a he son.ther were no sent mail from him to tha address.these pictures sent the same day i left after 10 pm.he came to visit merecently and my son had his phone i picked it up and he got all defensive telling me that this is a business phone.for some reason he just didnt want me with the phone.noe am wondering if he may have been talking to her on the phone.he is not the one to type to much.the only way she could have his email addy is if he gave it to her,but why?
i guess am asking what do i do should i confront him?i must be honest i have gone through his phone a couple times and found stuff.no reall signs of cheating but stuff i wanst pleased in seeing.
thaks for reading if u did