- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Ok- To condense.
I had to fire my Matron of Honor. Wait a minute though. I am no bridezilla. Believe me. You know how people have themes, like, “falling in love” or whatever? Well, our theme is “No stress!” haha!
My wedding is coming up on October 27. I originally was planning on not having a wedding party because I am getting married at 32 and most of my friends are already married, with kids, and I just didn’t want to add another “thing” to their plate.
Well, I have a friend (20 year friendship) that told me she wanted to be in my wedding and if I didn’t have her, she’d be offended. SO instead of listening to my inner voice. I went along with it.
Well, it ended badly. I wasn’t even expecting her to do anything with or for me except go with me to pick out her dress. That is it. Well, the day of, we had words, she screamed at me called me names….it was horrible. I tried give ourselves some breathing room to cool off and invited her over several days later to talk. She kept blowing me off. Never showed up after she said she would come over, etc etc. This is very typical behavior of her anyway. Although we have been friends for 20 years. She is a pretty sh-tty friend. Not dependable.
Anyway, after a week of blowing me off, I couldn’t take the stress anymore and kindly told her that I could not have her be a part of the wedding, that I thought she was too stressed out in her own life and that what she said to me was really hurtful and I didn’t really think her heart was in the right place. (I was her maid of honor back in 2003). I told her that I still would like her to be a part of my day though and attend the wedding, but that was up to her.
So, I ended up still inviting her to my bridal shower. She no showed. I haven’t heard one word from her since July. After she no-showed to the shower, I was going to not even send her an invite. But, I decided to be the bigger person and send her a wedding invitation. I invited her and her family (4 people total).
Our deadline to respond has passed. Should I just chalk this up to an ended friendship and let it be? Or should I ask her via email or whatever if she is coming. In my heart, I know the answer. But, I guess I just thought our friendship meant more. This has been the most hurtful and only stressful thing in the whole wedding planning. Everything else has gone beautifully.
Thanks for reading.