Post # 1
My wedding date is 11/19/11 the weekend before Thanksgiving. Originally we thought our date would be Thanksgiving weekend and in that case definitely would of sent std’s. With this date the weekend before i’m not sure if we need to or if we still should so people can maybe make arangments for coming into town earlier than Thanksgiving day. There is only one family from out of town and about 3 or 4 friends so there aren’t a lot of out of towners.
Thanks a lot bees!
Post # 3
I’ve been running into the same problem. To do STDs or not to do STds….
I think it depends on your and your FI preferences. Do you think people would like the STDs? Would it make your guests feel special? Do you have money in your budget for STDs?
I don’t think you HAVE to do them. It all depends on if you WANT to.
Post # 4
I think, in this case, since you only really have a few out of town guests that you could probably just mention the date to them so that they are aware of it. BUT if you are worried that your in town guests may be taking off for Thanksgiving early, then I would reconsider and probably send the save the dates out.
Post # 5
I would do STD’s. That’s a busy weekend in general and STD’s will help people plan ahead.
I didn’t do STD’s because I didn’t have a lot of OOT guests and I let most people know verbally. Not doing them also helped me procrastinate on my invite list (which changed a LOT over the course of the year).
In retrospect, I would have sent them out, just so people had the ‘official’ notice and a lot of people who knew about the date (but forgot) kept asking me – and I wish I had done magnets or something they could have easily referenced. We wanted to save money and I wasn’t really wanting to tackle a project… so we skipped them. It really makes a marginal difference, but – as a guest, I’d rather know way ahead of time than not.
If you have any ‘maybe’s’ on your list, consider doing a partial STD mailing – for those you really want to make sure they save the date… the others can just receive an invitation, IMO.
Post # 6
Our wedding is Memorial Day weekend, and we are not sending out STD’s. We have spread the word among the families, and I feel like everyone knows.
Post # 7
If you have lots of out of town guests and people who need babysitters, go for the STD’s.
Post # 8
In retrospect, I kind of think STDs were a waste of time. Most people (especially the important ones) knew our date before they even got them… for most people they were just a cute thing for the fridge.
Post # 9
If you don’t want to spend the money what if you sent a mass email?
Post # 10
In my case, STD are necessary. I have a lot of family out of town and I’d rather just send the STD to them intead of calling them and having them ask 1000 questions!
Post # 11
We are doing STDs. I’m getting married the weekend after 4th of July and for people who might be going out of town, I want them to remember that they’d would have to go out of town 2 weekends in a row. I also will have a lot of out-of-town guests, so it’s necessary. But if there aren’t a lot of out of towners or if these are people you talk to frequently, then they will probably remember or it won’t be a big deal since they aren’t traveling.