Post # 1
FI and I are paying for everything with no no help or support from family. I chose my two sisters as bridesmaids, and their two daughters as flowergirls. My sisters are extremely uncooperative and unhelpful. We live many states apart. They are both saying they are broke, and are asking me to pay for everything including their dresses. One said she is not sure if she can afford the air ticket to the wedding. This is the first wedding in the family and I feel stupid for expecting more from them.
I need to drop my sisters and their daughters and pick up two childhood friends and their daughters. My two friends are supportive and are helping me with ideas and even to pay for a few things, though I graciously thanked them for their offers but said no. I felt that their presence was more important to me. Now with 4 months to go, I feel compelled to drop my sisters and pick up my two friends.
Post # 3
You don’t have to invite your sisters out of obligation, but if they can’t afford it, not sure what you expect from them?
Post # 4
If you don’t want them to be in your wedding, you need to talk to them. We can’t make this decision for you.
Post # 5
Maybe you can talk to your sisters and give them an out. If they truly are that disinterested in participating, and broke, they may be relieved. Without knowing all the other family dynamics and emotions behind this it’s hard to say what you should do. Are you close with your sisters? What would your parents say, would they support this, or will it cause major drama?
Ultimately it is your wedding and you should be happy and have people around you that are supporting you, not stressing you out. But it is one day, and you have the rest of your life after to deal with your family, so pick your battles is my caution.