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I think you should have a really small, really intimate destination wedding. You can go wherever you please and invite whoever you want. If you just want to invite your dad, so he can walk you down the aisle, that's fine! People may be disappointed but they can't get angry, its YOUR wedding. Don't force yourself to do a big traditional wedding for others sake.
Yeah, I think having a very tiny wedding might suit you best! I would talk to your dad about it though... see what he says. :) And FI too of course!
Thanks guys! That is really what I want but both my FI and my dad do not want to inconvience people by having them have to pay to come to a destination wedding.
I wanted to elope or have a small wedding but had a larger wedding because that's what everyone else wanted. I did not enjoy the planning process (understatement). I did end up having a really nice time on the day of the wedding and the best part was seeing everyone that I hadn't seen in a long time. I think my mom would have been hurt if I had eloped. However, I also think that our relationship is good enough that she would have gotten over it. It's a catch-22 that has equally bad outcomes - you plan a wedding and stress yourself out, or you elope and the people who are hurt cause you stress . . .
All that to say, there will be stress either way, but in the end, it's the start of your marriage. You and your fiance are the ones who get to decide how you want to begin!
I agree w/ the idea of a destination wedding. Hope about having a destination wedding and then coming back and having a reception/party a few weeks later. That way every one is happy and then you can enjoy the after party w/o any of the nervous jitters. I know you said your dad didn't want to "burden people" w/ the cost of a destination wedding but someone people will be able to incorporate their vacations in and honestly, if people can't afford it they won't attempt to kill their bank accounts if they can't afford to.
Just because you decide to "elope" doesn't mean that no one else can be there. You could elope with as many as 4 people. You; FI and 2 witnesses (one being your father.) We went to a wedding that was a little drive away. The only people there were immediate family. (about 15-20 people total) You could totally do that. & if you decide to do a destination wedding; your probably not going to inconvienience anyone; because if they can't afford it they won't come. Destination doesn't have to be far away. It could be as easy as a couple hour drive away. I think you can definatly figure something out here. A big wedding sounds like it's definatly out; so your down to 2 choices.
I think a destination wedding would be perfect for you and FI. Just parents/siblings/close friends and everyone gets a relaxing vacation! Your father still gets to walk you down the aisle...it's perfect!
Would it hurt your dad's feelings that you didn't have a traditional ceremony, or is it just that he would want to be there? If it's the latter, a planned elopement sounds perfect for you guys! Invite your dad, your Fi's parents, and maybe a friend each, then go to the courthouse and out for a nice dinner. If you want to make it super special for you and your dad, maybe have a lovely breakfast with him, or plan some time out with just him for before the ceremony?
I am so excited now! I have decided on a destination beach wedding! I think this is the happy medium for everyone! Thanks for all the great advice!
Oh I think that a destination beach wedding will be awesome for you! Im pretty sure you can find places that will do most of the planning for you so it is stress free! Tons of brides on weddingbee have done it so Im sure you will have lots of help! GOod luck!
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HELP! I don't know if I should have a wedding or elope! I am an only child and the ultimate people pleaser & a perfectionist to boot! I hate to hurt people's feelings and love to do things to make other people happy. I am not really into weddings and much more excited about becoming one with the man I love than into planning such a huge event which I would obsess about every detail being perfect!
My mother is deceased so of course that makes the planning process a little more difficult both emotionally and logistically but God has blessed both me and my fiance with a huge extended family and church family that love us both very much. In addition, my dad is SUPER excited about the wedding walking me down the aisle and I don't want to rob him of that moment. But the only thing is I am not really into large crowds and lots of attention and its kind of overwhelming for me. There is no way for me to have small wedding without hurting peoples feelings but I don't really have time or desire to plan a wedding and definitely do not want to spend a load of $ on one day.
I am scared that if I give in and have a traditional wedding for my father and everyone's else's sake, the day will be overshadowed because my nerves will be shot from all the attention and me wanting everything to be perfect.
My fiance doesn't really care what kind of wedding we have but I am scared that if I elope that my father will be deeply hurt.
I am totally lost! Please help!