Post # 1
I’M MARRIED!!!! We got married on August 1 in the most BEAUTIFUL and perfect and wonderful day that ever happened! Everything was so fantasitc and I couldn’t be happier…
except for ONE thing.
I have been engaged for two years and eight months and I have been in pretty consistent contact with the florist/decorator. I told him that even though the only flowers I’m doing in the entire wedding will be the bouquets, I have a very particular taste for the bouqets and arrangements. But I didn’t think they were crazy demands!
1. No circular bouquets. I really dislike the ball-looking ones -> I wanted a wildflower looking bunch
2. Absolutely no cala llilies. I really hate them.
3. No toss bouquet – I’m not doing that, just make my bouquet extra full and beautiful for the extra price of the flowers
What did I get?
Medium sized ball with cala lilies.And a toss bouquet.
Before the wedding, I had written him emails, included a picture and even had a small conversation about one of the inspiration pictures being absolutely stunning. I was SOO excited for my flowers but because my hair/make up people ran 2 hours late, I didn’t get to see them until 10 minutes before the ceremony started. I was seriously ready to cry. I was so disappointed.
First world problems, I know, but this was something I paid lots of money for. It’s something I was excited about because the designer has done spectacular things. It’s been a week since the wedding and EVERYTHING else he did was beautiful (our table settings and ENORMOUS candle set up). But I’m just so disappointed with my bouquet. I see my pictures with the horrible ball and I’m just heartbroken.
Would you email him and tell him about how disappointed you were? Or would you just drop it? Part of me wants to drop it so bad, but every time I see the pictures, I am struck with how sad I am that my bouquet, the only flowers I really purchased, were exactly what I told him I didn’t want.
Post # 2
I wouldn’t bother, what’s it going to do now to complain? It sucks that they didn’t give you what you want but I’d probably just give them a review that indicated they didn’t follow your preferences.
Post # 3
I’m sorry you’re upset, but to be honest, I would let it go. And not to shift the blame to you, but why didn’t you have a trial with the florist before the wedding? I’ve scheduled one with my florist so I can see what my bouquet will look like, and the size of it. As well as, a centerpiece.
I’m really surprised that he went completely against your vision. That’s pretty strange.
Post # 4
I’m going to go against the grain and recommend that you do talk with him. He can’t change anything now, but he needs to know of this foul-up. Maybe he had an employee do your bouquets and they completely misinterpreted his instructions.
Most reputable vendors want to know when their service didn’t measure up. Honestly, it sounds as if somewhere along the line, your “Nots” were changed into “wants”.
Post # 5
OMGMrsW2B: I know. That’s what I keep thinking, that it’s my fault. But this was a destination wedding. My DH and I live in Hawaii and the wedding was in California. No one in our families lives around the area. I met the man once before where I explained a lot of these things and the rest of the time, we continued the discussion by email. I found the actual paper trail of my requests. So I know it’s not that I dropped the ball in that respect. But I should have asked to see a mock-up before hand. Or something. :C
Curlycupcake: I like this idea. I might just write a review. He was wonderful otherwise!
julies1949: Actually this is great advice. He is VERY reputable in the area and I told him I fully trusted his design. But I just thought he’d work within my “don’t”s.
Thank you, ladies! Already this is clearing up what I should do.
Post # 6
JackiBean: I really didn’t mean to make you feel like it was your fault, you had a clear vision and the florist didn’t come through with that. Also, now knowing that it was a destination wedding, that puts it into a different perspective.
And, I have to actually agree with Julie, what’s the worst that can happen by mentioning it? Maybe an assistant messed something up. It might give you some peace of mind.
Post # 7
OMGMrsW2B: Don’t worry about it!
I ended up sending a nice email explaining how I was disappointed that my expectations weren’t met based on our conversations via email. It felt good just to get it off my chest instead of continuously tear up a little every time I see the bouquet.
Post # 8
Let us know what he says!
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
It’s too bad you didn’t say something the day of. My florist forgot to give us a flower girl basket with petals. I ended up getting an extra tall centerpiece at my venue for free to make up for the mishap. It was huge and gorgeous and I don’t know how they put it together and got it there on time! It definitely made me feel better that they were willing to go above and beyond to make amends and I still speak highly of my florist to this day.
If I were you, I would definitely write bad reviews for your florist all over the internet. I don’t know how he could have messed up so badly, and I’d feel a responsibility to let other brides know so they aren’t disappointed as well. I also might request my money back. I don’t think he should just get away with it scott free.
Post # 10
Ok, don’t trash the guy all over the internet. You mentioned how good he was with everything else, and as PP stated he could have had an employee not follow his instructions/mess up. I’d wait to see how he responds to the email and then take it from there if need be. And I’m sorry this happened to you btw
Post # 11
I think you should talk to him, because he may refund you for the bouquet or something. It’s always worth trying. If you don’t, you’ll never really get closure.
Post # 12
I think if you did write reviews on the internet you could just be honest. Everything went well except for your bouquet, which went the opposite of well. Just tell the whole truth, like you told us here, that way people know what they are potentially getting into. It could happen again!
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!
Keep us updated on what he responds! Sorry that happened 🙁