Post # 1
So my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 and a half years. He has let me pick out the ring I want because shortly after we started talking about rings he realized I am incredibly picky. So for the last 3 years we have been shopping for rings. I have been to every store and looked at every website.
After realizing I do not enjoy ring shopping anymore I bit the bullet and went with a blue nile setting even though I told myself I would never be able to buy online. I just wanted to be done with ring shopping and finally have a ring. So last weekend my boyfriend and I ordered the ring together and it should be here next Wednesday.
He told me I can’t have it until Christmas, which is ok by me. I’m curious though if he is going to propose or if I’ll just open the box on Christmas and put the ring on and that will be the end of it. Should I expect a proposal from him?
Post # 3
@mandanjoe: My so bought the ring soon and made a joke like that. I nipped it in the butt with a sad face real quick. I told him that it how he gives it to me is up to him, but please do not just give me the ring. It isn’t a present.
Just re-affirm to him that this isn’t a present.
I told him that giving it to me was his show.
Post # 4
Thanks! I’d be really disappointed if there was not a proposal…
Post # 5
Personally, I don’t think you can have it both ways. You can’t choose the ring and order it together and still get this grand, surprise proposal. I’m sure he’s not just going to hand you the box and say “here you go”, but I personally wouldn’t expect a big show of a proposal.
Post # 6
@AmyFarrahFowler: I understand and I don’t want a grand proposal.. Maybe just something better than a “here you go” lol
Post # 7
My FI and I ordered my ring together, so I knew it was coming, but it was up to him when/how to propose. He ended up doing a really sweet proposal, one knee and all, and I had no idea when I woke up that morning that we would be engaged by bed time. It might be best not to expect a big gesture, but there is no harm in hinting for it, right?
Post # 8
You better get a proposal! Just cause you have a say in the ring doesn’t mean you don’t deserve the same experience as other ladies, there is still a lot that he can surprise you with. I would say the discussion of when the ring comes and wedding talk should stop until there is an official engagement!
Post # 9
My SO and I picked out our rings together, and even though I know exactly when they’ll be ready, he is still planning a proposal. He said just because he’ll have it doean’t mean that’s when I’m getting it.
Post # 10
@AmyFarrahFowler: yes you can!
I picked my ring, was with him when he bought it, knew when it was delievered and less than 36 hours later was completely surprised by his proposal! Literally had NO Idea it was coming.
OP – I don’t think it’s outrageous to expect a proposal. He shouldn’t just hand you the box and say here is your ring.