- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
When I chose my bridesmaids I had one friend in mind, but I did not ask her because we have not seen each other in over a year, and I felt it was inapropriate for that reason. She and I were best friends in high school but have since grown apart (we are both in our late twenties now). We see each other maybe once a year and we keep in contact on Facebook. She has a 1 year old daughter I have not even met her and we only live 30 mins. away from each other. We have tried to meet up but things like school (we are both adult students) and work always seems to get in the way.
She’s been contacting me lately about the wedding and has been super supportive. She recently asked me who my maid of honor is, and she asked me about the bachelorette party. I still haven’t replied because I’m not sure if I should explain to her that I wanted to ask her to be a bridesmiaid but that I felt it was inapropriate. Her question opens this discussion and I’m wondering if I should use the opportunity. I feel the need to explain because I feel bad. She may not even care, but I will never know unless I bring it out into the open. I would love for her to be a bridesmaid, and I wish I would have just asked her. Now it is too late because the bridesmaids dresses are already here and the wedding is in less than two months.
How should I address her question? Should I just answer it and leave it at that, or should I let her know why I didn’t ask her and that I regret it now? I guess I feel so bad because I would be a little hurt if she invited me to her wedding but did not ask me to be in her wedding party. I would understand, but it would be a reminder that we aren’t as close as we used to be. Why do I feel so bad??????