Post # 1
…about going to a wedding??
Backstory: FI and I were just invited to the wedding of his parents’ friends’ daughter (got that?). They are good friends of the family and FI and I know them well. However, we do not know their daughter. FI has met her a few times, I have not. From my understanding, they have invited close to 1000 people (you read that right) to this wedding.
So here is my issue: I kind of feel bad RSVPing "yes." The bride contacted my FMIL for our address, saying that she would "love" to have my FI and I there, but I’m not sure if that is because her parents told her to invite us or what. If we RSVP "no" it’s not like they’re going to "miss" us. But at the same time, when you’re inviting almost 1000 people @ over $100/person, what’s another 2 heads, ya know?
I’m probably just being really weird about it, but if you were in my position what would your reaction be? If you were the bride, how would you feel about inviting us? Also for the record, I do not feel "slighted" or "just another gift-giver" or anything like that. Thanks ladies!
Post # 3
I say go! They decided to invite you, and who wouldn’t want to see what a 900-guest wedding looks like?
Post # 4
If they invited you, you have every right to attend, especially if you are friends of her parents. It sounds like they want a lot of people there to help celebrate their nuptials and can afford it! Lucky them!
Post # 5
I would want to go just to see what a 1,000 guest wedding looks like. I might feel bad about the level of curiosity I’m currently feeling… but not about attending.
Post # 6
I would go. I was in a similar situation last summer (parents’ friends’ son’s wedding). However they planned it in just a few days (moved up the wedding date due to visa issue) and we were told the night before. We already had plans made to be out of town so we couldn’t make it to their wedding. I do wish we could have though, as I really love the groom’s family and my parents said they had a super fun wedding.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House
Wow, 1000 people? That’s amazing. It sounds like shes wants you and your FI coming (especially since she contacted your family for your address), so I would go.
Post # 8
Whew, ok thanks so much ladies. I know it’s really weird to feel the way I’m feeling. I think I just needed some reassurance for some reason. I’ll be sure to document what a wedding of that size looks like!!
Post # 9
Weddings are fun, regardless of how well you know the couple. Have a great time!
Post # 10
When it comes down to it, whether you come or not isn’t going to make a big difference… so you should definitely go if you want to. What fun!
Post # 11
FI and I were just invited to a wedding where I don’t know the couple at all and he doesn’t know they that well. We aren’t going because I won’t be in town but I could see the temptation of not going because you almost feel like "did they think they had to invite us? so should we just say no so they can say ‘phewf’?" I’d probably think that if I were in your shoes- howEVER, I agree with everyone else- to see a 900-odd person wedding would be an amazing experience so totally GO!!!
Can I ask where this is? Is it in Cleveland? Where? I can only think of that one place out in like, the Mentor area, that can hold 700 or so people, maybe more. I forget what it’s called though.
Post # 12
You should totally go! I’ve been to weddings that size and I assure you, its something to see.