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    onada01    September 2010   New Jersey

    Lately I've been seeing so many gorgeous wedding details  - invitations, favors, decors etc - all done by some amazing brides who took on these DIY projects. I would totally love to do some DIY stuff for my wedding and save some money this way but I have no time (work and business) and I just don't think I could do a good job but i really wish i could be a DIY bride! Any one else out there wish they could take on  DIY project but just cant?

     
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    dachshund    May 22, 2010   Fresno, CA

    You shouldn't feel guilty about not taking on DIY projects!  You have to do what works best for you.  I've been to gooorgeous weddings that weren't DIY at all!

     
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    Mrs. Dee to Bee    January 30, 2010   Louisville, KY (Wedding in TX)

    hahaha! YES! I DIY'd some of my BM gifts, but nothing spectacular. I wouldn't dare try to make my own invitations or flowers though! I think it's awesome that so many brides can, but I'm happy to hire a professional. (:

     
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    Yup.  I'm embarrassed at how much money is being spent on this wedding but in the end I just don't have the time or patience or attention to detail to pull off the DIY. 

    I wanted to do an iPod reception but nobody really wanted to do the announcements for us, so we ended up hiring a DJ.  In a way DIY is more stressful, and it is nice that I don't have to worry about music or equipment not working or whatnot.

    I'm also sad to say that I have several friends who are amazing photographers as a hobby.  I feel like they could have done our wedding for pretty cheap and it would have looked very nice.  My parents however wanted to make sure to get someone who was experienced in weddings specifically, and as a result we are spending a good chunk of $ on photos.  Oh well.

     
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    Laylabelle    November 7, 2009  

    No, you shouldn't feel guilty! I wish I could do more DIY, but I'm not crafty enough. To each their own! :)

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    hey, DIY flowers aren't nearly as time consuming as you might think, from all the articles I'm reading. Seriously... maybe two hours the night before the wedding for bouquets, another hour for bouts; centerpieces would take up more time, but if you keep those simple, they can be easy too.

    Flowers are SO expensive... I just couldn't justify a florist.

     
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    Miss Yap    02/20/10   Dallas

    I am famous for not being DIY. I am a big BIY bride. The most DIY I have done is addressed my envelopes myself.

     
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    Kittyachi    August 2010   New York

    I was contemplating DIYing my invitations but when I brought it up with my Dad at dinner the other night (my Dad being the one actually paying for most of the wedding) he was like "are you out of your f**king mind?" I thought he'd be like "Oh that's great honey" since he's a big one for cost-cutting, but actually he thought I was nuts because he knows how much of a perfectionist I am and that I would drive myself crazy. So now I kind of feel like, hey - I was gonna try and was talked out of it. Guilt-free.

     
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    MonicaRamirez    6/18/2011   San Jose, CA

    If I was a bit more crafty myslef I would probably have more motivation to be a DIY'er.  I think with the help of those close to me I might have a better chance of doing something right. 

     
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    Miss Pinot Grigio    March 21, 2009   Indianapolis, IN

    No need to feel guilty about not being a DIY bride! That's why the professionals are still in business - to help make your day extremely fabulous, and save you the hassle. =)

     

     
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    Soon2BeMrsCLW3    July 31, 2010  

    Please! Before I got engaged I thought I was going to be hopping on the DIY train...and then I remembered I'm not that artistic! HAHA Dont feel bad.  Going through this wedding planning process, Im realizing that I just dont have the time to DIY either...maybe something small, who knows, as we progress! But dont feel bad :)

     
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    spaniel    March 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Hot damn I know what you mean. I feel guilty about the money that is spent on things I could have done myself. But as the guest list got bigger and my time got more precious... sometimes letting go is best for everyone, and there should be no guilt in that. ;)

     
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    hcritton    09/06/09   Seattle, WA

    Should you feel guilty? Heck no! I would think you would feel less stressed by foregoing many DIY projects. And in my personal experience, "DIY" didn't always mean cheaper. Some things it did, other things it didn't and I just did it myself because I wanted something very particular that I couldn't buy from somewhere else. Not to mention that if you DIY and something goes wrong you'll be DIYA (A = again) and that is not cost friendly or time effiicient at all. Looking back, I shouldn't have taken on so many projects, I nearly went crazy! Ok maybe at times I did go crazy...

    If you really want to do some projects, maybe pick one or two things you could DIY--things that you can do here and there when you have some free moments in your schedule.

     
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    catlady    June 26, 2010   Toronto

    As of this moment, we have ZERO DIY projects planned.  Although I would love to sit in front of my computer designing invitations and table numbers, I know in my heart that it would cause more stress than anything. 

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    Don't feel guilty at all! 

    I proclaimed myself a "Semi-Homemade" type of bride on my blog a good while back!

    There is nothing wrong with "outsourcing" projects!  But there are plenty of things you still can do, while leaving the big stuff to others.

    Write a list and save some of the smaller projects to try to DIY.  I personally consider my being able to choose colors and themes (along with m y sis) doing DIY.  Designing floral arrangements and relaying it to the florists and designing parties and receptions myself is also a talent I've developed and can do that quite well!  But there's no real "evidence" that I DIY'd it.  I'd bet you're much the same way.  I may try a different type of DIY on the blog too showing sketches (which I'm not good at) and how we're going to execute the reception and ceremony design!

    I can't draw.  I can't paint.  I can do a few DIY things, but my real DIY talent comes from inside my head and is transferred into making a party pop! YOU have DIY talent too!  It just may not be the paper and glue or invite making DIY talent.

    You have one.  What is it?  And think outside of the box!  And even if you outsourced ALL of the wedding, there is nothing wrong with that b/c we know all the bees buzzing the hive are creative in their own ways! 

     

     
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    bruschetta    August 29, 2009   Philadelphia

    I totally felt guilty at times throughout the planning process.  But I agree, sometimes it was a timing thing, and sometimes a skill thing -- I only got into DIY paper crafts after finding Weddingbee in March(ish) 2008 -- that led me to outsource to another vendor, like for our RD invites.

     
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    cinemaparadiso    July 16, 2015  

    I totally agree with Bellenga! You might not be a whiz at making your own pocketfold invites on the gocco, but could you make a wedding website to end all wedding websites, or figure out an innovative way to do your table linens?

    Even if you don't do anything DIY, it doesn't make anything less you, or less special! It will always be your wedding day, and in the end, you're getting to marry your wonderful husband. That's the whole point, right?

    Best wishes to you!

     
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    lkbphmd    August 7, 2010   MN (ceremony in Omaha, NE)

    No where does it say that one must DIY in order to get married, so don't feel guilty!  I love many of the projects I see and admire their talent and patience, and I participated in DIY projects for my sisters weddings.  I haven't decided what, if any, projects I'll take on, but if in the end I decide to omit or buy rather than DIY, no loss of sleep over it. 

     

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