- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Ok, so here is a little background that leads up to the real meat n taters of this post!
My husband had been in a previous LTR, ALMOST married, and she DESTROYED him! She was a poor money manager and gave her kids money constantly and spent tons of clothes, makeup, hair, nails, etc…My husband works in public service and doesn’t make an extravagant amount of money, but he was still forced to pick up her slack, paying car payments, mortgage payments, insurance, groceries and school lunches, etc. Toward the end, she finally let him in on the fact that she was SO far behind on their mortgage payments that they were close to foreclosure!!! My husband had his dream truck, but decided that it was more important that her kids have a roof over their head than for him to have the truck, so he paid the house back current and his truck got re-possessed. He then gave her tons of money to help get her out of debt…and then she cheated on him numerous times until he couldn’t take it anymore. He was finally forced to file bankruptcy.
When we got together, he was busting butt to get his bankruptcy paid off early and he’s been doing great! In fact, we got engaged last Christmas, and he paid his bakruptcy off in May! I’m super proud of him, not only for what he did and sacrificed for her children, but for doing what he can to get his life back in order!
AND HERE’S THE ISSUE! When he decided to propose to me, obviously because of his bankruptcy he didn’t have a lot of extra money to spend on a ring and there was no way he could finance one, as his credit is good, but the bankruptcy keeps him from being able. SO he ordered me a really cool CZ stone, in a sterling setting with a pink camo coating! I was exciting, because the ring was so unique and very much my style! I wasn’t super thrilled about not getting a diamond, but I can live with (It was really pretty after all!) The problem with that ring was after 2 weeks of wearing it, the camo coating started coming off!!! And the company wouldn’t fix it! So we went to a local department store and bough a “temporary replacement” costume jewlery type set, which again, was very pretty, but I wore it for about a month and the coating also came off of it and the inner metal started making my skin turn colors. My husband, then went to a local chain store and bought me what was SUPPOSED to be 14ct gold / CZ stone set, which is AGAIN pretty. I’m not a huge fan of yellow gold, but he liked it and he was trying so hard. Well, just the other day, I noticed that the “gold” is now coming off this ring as well. We got married in June, so in a year, I have been through 3 rings!
I made mention of this rings problems and he grumbled “I guess I know what you’re getting next year.” I don’t think he’s thrilled about buying me a “real” bridal set, but I REALLY want one. It makes me ill that we’ve wasted so much money on CRAP and it looks bad. I feel like our rings are a symbol of our relationship, so I don’t want it looking shabby and ugly multi-toned! I find myself resenting his ex for putting him a position that doesn’t allow him to buy me a ring that I feel I deserve! And I find myself annoyed that she was so HORRIBLE and he made decisions to benefit her that eventually made us not have the things that we should. GRANTED, I do not have any desire for an ungoldy expensive ring. But I don’t think around $1500 is unreasonable either. Throughts?!?!