(Closed) Should i feel silly?! WAS it a silly idea? Advice please :(

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think it’s a silly idea at all. Maybe she doesn’t want to go down the aisle with the little one? Could she do it on her own maybe? 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think that was silly at all. Maybe if she doesn’t to carry her down, could one of your bridesmaids of MOH, I have seen this a lot.

There is no way you should feel uncomfortable I think you did the right thing.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think it’s silly. My fiance’s nephew (first and only, so far) will be 7 weeks old at our wedding and he’s our ring bearer. His mother (FIs sister) will carry him down the aisle and we’ll pin the rings to his clothes.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Don’t feel silly!  There’s no need to.  It just sounds like your Aunt doesn’t love the idea.  She may also not like the idea of walking down the aisle with her daughter, the center of attention isn’t everyone’s thing.  How old is your cousins daughter?  Maybe the daughter can help your goddaughter down the aisle, in a wagon or something.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Perhaps she thinks that the older girl would enjoy doing it, while her child wouldn’t really remember the experience.

Flower girl is a HUGE deal to little girls – so I could see how she might think that it would be more fun for the older girl. Also then your Aunt wouldn’t have to walk down the aisle, perhaps SHE feels uncomfortable with this just because she’d have to essentially throw the flower petals and that’s why she suggested your cousins daughter.

Maybe you can have your cousins daughter pull her in a wagon or something (depending on the older girls age) and that way you can have the children without having their parents need to be in the wedding.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i don’t think it sounds silly at all. like others said, your aunt might not to walk down the aisle. or maybe she’s worried that due to the girl’s age, so might cry the whole time.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think it’s silly at all.  It sounds like maybe she doesn’t like getting up in front of people so she’s trying to create an out so she doesn’t have to.  If you’re close just point blank ask her.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

We had our niece, nephews and my cousin in our wedding. Our nephew was 5 months old at the time, so my older nephew who was 5 pulled him in a wagon down the aisle.  It was so flipping cute you don’t even know!! Maybe ask your cousin’s daughter to be a flower girl too, that way she can walk your god daughter down the aisle and help her throw petals.  I think that would be so cute, and agree that your aunt probably just doesn’t want to be in the spot light

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I was going to suggest a wagon as well camrie!  I think that is always super cute and u can surround her in flowers!  I bet her mom just doesnt feel comfortable walking down the aisle for whatever reason!  my 2 daughters are my flower girls ages will be 19 months and 3 yrs.  My grandmother is actually going to walk them down holding each hand.  I have been to a few weddings where they have sprayed a wagon white and decorated it for a younger flower girl and had it pulled by an old flower girl or a bm.  I think its still really really cute!  good luck!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I don’t think it’s silly, but the mom probably just didn’t want to participate in that way. I know that I wouldn’t like walking down the aisle with a baby and hoping they did the right thing and didn’t scream or cry. In fact, even if it’s a close family member, i’d probably still find a sitter for my child for the wedding. She’s probably thinking “older child will have a good time, and i won’t have to do all the rehearsal stuff”.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I don’t think you should feel silly at all, I think it was a really sweet idea

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Its a sweet idea.  It sounds like the Mom doesn’t want to walk down the aisle and throw flowers. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

jenifer espos gave me an idea…if you have a ring bearer, he could try and escort the baby down the aisle, with a wagon or something like that. I think the aunt is kind of against the idea is because she would have to walk down the aisle. I don’t think you’re being silly at all, it seems like you’re closer to your goddaughter than you cousin’s daughter & that’s what the whole point of having the people that you’re close to be there in the wedding party.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

maybe she cant afford a dress??  maybe that is why she is suggesting someone else i would def ask her!

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