Post # 1
Two weeks ago, my Fiance and I made a very expensive trip to New Orleans for a friends wedding. I was invited to the shower, got a nice shower gift, we drove to N.O., spent a lot of money on the hotel & gave them a decent wedding gift.
This weekend she graduated from college. She invited a few people over for a “dessert pot-luck reception” at 8:30pm. We found out about this at 10:30 am. We brought over brownies, and I got her a card.. but I couldn’t afford a gift card to put inside.
Now I feel guilty that I didn’t give her a little something for her graduation – but the other side of my mind says, you just spent 1200 dollars on this girl, she should understand…
What do you guys think? I have a “guilty” feeling, should I?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t worry about it. That’s a lot of events all at once (shower, wedding, graduation)! Also, you didn’t really know about the event in advance.
Post # 4
Oh my gosh, get rid of that guilt pronto! I’m sure she wasn’t expecting anything from you other than for you to come and have a good time. She must appreciate what you did just a short time ago, that was more than generous. You can’t over extend yourself, you can only do what you can do. Don’t worry about a thing. I just hope the brownies were good 🙂
Post # 5
I don’t think you should worry about it. You went to the get-together to celebrate her graduation. That should be all that’s expected, not an extravagant gift.
Post # 6
Don’t feel guilty. I doubt she was expecting a gift. She probably just wanted to celebrate with friends! 🙂
Post # 7
I wouldn’t feel guilty at all. I have never bought a graduation gift for anyone, and I didn’t receive any! I am sure she wasn’t expecting gifts, and the card was a nice gesture 🙂
Post # 8
You are fine! I’m sure she didn’t expect anything since you just spent mega bucks on her shower! Don’t feel guilty! You are good 🙂
Post # 9
Ditch the guilt! You have nothing to feel guilty for – you were there to celebrate with her and were able to pull together a dish and a card at the last minute! Heck, you deserve some kudos for it!
Post # 10
I wouldn’t feel guilty! You just gave her a present for her wedding, people don’t need both especially not from friends!
Post # 11
i think you are a most generous person and should not feel guilty! i am sure your friend appreciated everything, including the graduation brownies and card!! it’s prolly just bothering you personally cuz you are a “giver” 🙂
Post # 12
Thanks guys! I appreciate it. I try very hard not to offend, and I was just unsure if others would have responded the way I was feeling that she might.