- 4 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
FMIL has generously offered to cater our wedding, with the intention to hand over to “helpers” a few hours before the ceremony. The plan was cold meats and salads, so very easy to prep before time. (I had wanted a 3 course plated meal (out catered), but FH talked me into a casual buffet as our friends are drinkers – need to make sure there’s a big meal in their tummies!)
She was initially happy with my menu, but slowly things are creeping in or out as she sees fit and more and more items have to be served hot (in summer), which means she needs a small army of friends at the venue (which is also our ceremony location and accomadation) to help prepare, while FH and I are getting ready.
My dessert has been pared down within an inch of its life (“no one eats dessert anyway”), 4 sides turned into 8 (“not everyone eats x, you need y too. You can’t have y without z”), foods and condiments that FH and I hate have been added (“I don’t care if you like it, I like it and I’m cooking”)…
Then came the piece de resistance:
“Look, the only thing people will remember about this wedding is the food, so I’ll do it the right way”
Not our vows, commitment, love? Not the dress, the mansion-for-a-venue, breathtaking view?
Nope, just FMIL’s boring buffet food.
I can cater. I have friends who cater. I can easily do the prep on MY menu, just means I have to meet with the helpers earlier as I wont have time to do it 2 hours before the ceremony.
3 meats, 3 salads, hot boiled potatoes and fresh bread rolls. Are we really going to be a laughing stock for serving that? Is everyone over the retirement age going to find themselves with nothing to eat? Even if you didn’t like the food, wouldn’t you just suck it up, because the wedding is more important than food?
Is it time to fire FMIL?