Post # 1
My fiance and I made the mistake of hiring the first wedding planner we met. We hired her because she had experience at the venue we were hoping to book at the time. She has not been very helpful and we’ve already had one conversation with her where we told her what we needed from her. I feel like we never get a quick response from her and that she’s not really getting what we are hoping to do. I don’t feel like she knows we’re on a budget and that she’s only wanting us to meet her vendors who happen to be the most expensive wedding vendors out there. I want to fire her but we have vendor days set up with her for next week. But I also don’t want to go through the entire year of wedding planning feeling like I don’t have someone who is going to be there for me. My inclination is to fire her and meet some other planners who will see more eye to eye with us. Any advice would be appreciated!
Post # 3
I would say fire her and do the leg work your self hiring venders then hire a Day of Even Coordinator she will take care of all the final details about 4 weeks before your wedding. All this depending on how much time you have. I am doing it this way, I have hired all my venders and my wedding planner is taking over the last 4 weeks. Good luck.
Post # 4
Would there be any financial reprecussions for firing her? I’m assuming you paid a deposit which you would probably lose by firing her, correct?
Have you tried sitting down to talk with her about your concerns?
Post # 5
Your wedding planner is very important and needs to be on the same page as you. Can you try having another conversation telling her what you want and outlining your budget. Maybe she just doesn’t realize it.
If this does not work and things don’t start to turn around, I say look into other planners and find out what will happen (deposits, etc.) if you do fire her.
Post # 6
Hi. Sorry this is happening! It’s so unfortunate.
Did you already sign a contract with her? If you did, you should read it to see what is involved if you decide to cancel her services. I actually had a similar experience.
I hired my first wedding planner by word of mouth, after meeting her once. She was sooo nice, enthusiastic, everything we dreamed of in a wedding planner. We had a grace time of which we got to feel her out before we signed a contract and paid her deposit, during that time I felt like she was un-interested, un-involved, and really just hated the fact we wanted to do our own negotiating with vendors and signing the contracts, and she was just a nightmare.
So I too had a wedding planner fiasco. I fired her a few days before my mother and I met with her to pay her and sign a contract, THANK GOD! I found a dream of a wedding planner within a week, and it’s a worlds difference in how I feel and how we connect.
Really it is such a weird thing, you have to connect with the planner, I would’ve never known that before this situation. Hopefully you can let her go, and start over or even just call whomever you’ve booked and let them know it didn’t work out.
I just told the nightmare planner: Look, this isn’t working out, obviously this isn’t the right fit, please send me a bill if I owe you anything. Have a nice day – except my fiance did this talk, and I didn’t speak with her. So he handled that part.
Post # 7
I know exactly what you’re going through. I had a similar experience. I picked this lady because she was referred by a few people, but he and I didn’t fit either. It was like she was planning her wedding and didn’t really need nor want to hear my opinion or ideas. I won’t go into details because I’ll be here all day. I ended telling her I wanted to plan my own and ‘my friend was going to doc.
I decided to call a few and meet with them. I ended up going with the one I felt most comfortable with and she was so great when we met. I called a couple of refs and then decided I wanted to work with her. We’re currently working together and she is super… so needless to say, I feel wonderful about my decision to let the other go.
We have enough stress without feeling like the one we hired is not helpful or supportive. If she’s adding more stress (sounds like she is) Just "Trump" her and say ‘your fired!" not really in those words, but tell her it’s not working out….better yet, have your fiance’ do it.
If you need any recs for wedding planners just ask, I’m sure all of us here on this board don’t mind sharing our wedding planner info.
Post # 8
completely agree with "sweets". a planner or DOC is supose to relieve you of stress, not add to it. read your contract fully, perhaps have a chat with her about what YOUR expectations are, and then if you’re still not on the same page, let her go.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm
"You’re fired!". If she is adding any stress to your planning fire her. Planners are supposed to be helpful and take off some of the stress – otherwise you would be doing it all on your own. I’m sure you can find someone better, maybe interview a few folks before letting her go – just to be safe.
Post # 10
I agree with other who say you should fire her.
If you havent signed a contract or paid a deposit, simply let her know that your plans have changed and you’ve decided to plan your own wedding (even if thats not true). Even if you have paid a deposit, it might be worth it to lose that money – you do not want to go through the next year dealing with someone else’s craziness!
Two weeks from my wedding and I can say I wish I’d gotten a planner. We have a day-of planner, but it would have been nice to have someone help me think through the style of the wedding, communicate with all the different vendors, juggle payments, and make unbiased decisions, knowing the industry.
Go with your gut!
Post # 11
Thank you everyone for your advice! It really helps!