Post # 1
We are getting married at city hall without any guests, having pictures, then going out to dinner. He will be wearing a black wool suit and tie. I will carry a bouquet but I don’t know if I should get him a boutonniere. I don’t want it to look cheesy like prom, which is what comes to mind when I see it. In a traditional wedding, they are nice to set the groomsmen apart from the guests but is it unnecessary in our case? I know if I ask him he will say he doesn’t want one, but I don’t know if I will regret forgoing it.
Post # 3
Not sure if he’ll regret not having one in later years, but it is a special touch to a special day. Prom boutonnieres look hokey because high school kids go for the cheap ones. A good florist can make a simple but elegant boutonniere that doesn’t look hokey and doesn’t cost a fortune.
Post # 4
You could make him a personalized boutonniere to reflect his interests.
super unique boutonnieres! pics!
Post # 5
I’m having those yellow billy ball things and hops in our boutonnière’s – you don’t have to get a prom-y bout.
Post # 6
Ask him. My husband did not want one so we left it out!
Post # 7
It seems unnecessary from what you’ve described – A) they remind you of prom, B) your FI sounded like he didn’t want one (but wouldn’t hurt to ask!), C) no guests to set him apart from.
Maybe show him photos of what it looks like on the lapel and see what he says.
FI will have one only because it came with the elopement pacakge. Otherwise, I’d probably be asking the same thing.
Post # 8
I agree with other posters…just ask him if he wants one. I’m eloping and I am getting my groom a boutonniere because I’m getting a handmade charm from etsy to attached to it with a picture of his deceased parents. I want him to have them with him on our special day. I’m also getting a charm for my bouquet with my parents’ pic my mother is still alive but I wanted them represented in someway since we’re having no attendants nor guests. 🙂
Post # 9
Thanks, Bees. I appreciate all of your replies so far. I will talk with the florist this week about my bouquet and see what might work. If I get one it will probably be with small flowers and I’m pretty sure it would only be $10.
We’re not geek-chic enough to pull off what @julies1949: linked to, but those are cool.
Post # 10
Eh, skip it. It’s one less thing to worry about. Congrats on your upcoming wedding!
Post # 11
We skipped it. He didn’t want one, and for us, it looked better with him not having one.
But if y’all want to, there’s nothing wrong with it simply because you are at a courthouse.