Post # 1
I started to realize yesterday that there is nobody at the church to organize our wedding. We are getting married in a chapel at a boarding school, so there isn’t a typical wedding coordinator that comes with the church. I have no idea how everyone is going to organize themselves on the day of the wedding. When I mentioned this to my mom, she started freaking out and telling me it was a waste of money. That I don’t need someone to tell people when to start walking. But how are they supposed to know when to go? I don’t have any aunts or cousins attending and my close girlfriends are in the wedding party, so I don’t really have anyone is could designated responsibilies to. Did you use a coordinator? Thoughts?
Post # 3
I would look into it. You may not need one for the ceremony, but it’d probably be super helpful to have someone who can take care of any last minute details, run errands, take phone calls from vendors, etc. You can get by without one, but if something happens, it’s great to have someone to go to who can take care of things. For example, I had some friends who got married and once they got to the reception, they realized they forgot the check for the DJ. They had a coordinator and she was able to drive back to their house and get the check so that way nobody (bride, groom, family, etc.) had to miss an hour or so of the wedding. We have one and I’m so glad we do.
Post # 4
I would. Hiring our DOC was the biggest weight off my shoulders.
Post # 5
@abbie017: Ditto. We are one month out and just hired our DOC about a week ago. I feel better already!
Post # 6
poll! poll! And I would say Yes.
Post # 7
It doesn’t need to be someone you hire or pay, but I would suggest that you have someone who is organized and sensible to help you with all of the details on your day!
Post # 8
I was considering having one for mine, just because if I don’t then I will be out their doing it, but after looking at prices and being on a tight budget I might “hire” some one I know to take charge, just because we live in a destination wedding area and anything with wedding is upped about five fold. I just have to make sure they are organized and know what to do. I plan on having pics of everything so there is no guessing and boxes with everything in it for easy put up and take down.
Post # 9
I was totally against hiring a coordinator then found out my DJ does coordinating and cut me a deal ($200) for coordinating everything and taking over where Ive left off. What a HUGE relief thats been so much weight off my shoulders! Id look into it
Post # 10
yes, get one, maybe there is a school near you with Event Management Sudents or Wedding Planners in training, this would be a great way for them to get volunteer hours and for you to save on costs.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Not having a day of coordinator was the biggest regret that I had for my first wedding. If it’s in your budget at least hire one to do the rehearsal and ceremony. You can probably find one for a couple hundred dollars. My mom tried to coordinate it herself but it’s too much for the MOB; she ended up not being able to help me into my dress because she was setting things up for the ceremony.
Post # 12
My DOC is helping create a very detailed timeline, directing our rehearsal, confirming with all vendors before wedding, then at wedding she’ll be pinning boutonnieres on men, directing guests to the appropriate places, directing wedding party down the aisle, ensure we stick to the timeline, make sure the flowers/cake/centerpieces/favors are all in the right places, set up the cake/card/gift tables, and generally be there to ensure things go smoothly.
I want someone else to be “in charge” should anything go wrong! If you can afford a DOC – do it! And make sure you find someone with references. 🙂
Post # 13
I wasn’t originally planning to have one. Then a couple months into planning I decided that it didn’t seem like a very good idea for me to be the person in charge of EVERYTHING the day of, and that I would like to be able to enjoy myself and ignore logistics as much as possible. I ended up hiring a DOC “plus” – she’s actually stepping in now and is going to handle things with vendors, venues, etc. from now until the wedding. I am SO GRATEFUL I have her. I originally didn’t intend to make room in my budget for this expense, but at this point I’m so glad she’s helping me – I barely care what it costs. (I’m planning from out of state so I might need a bit more help than normal.) Anyway, right now it seems kind of crazy to me that I ever considered not having one.
Post # 14
I would recommend it, but definitely do your research. We have a DOC (really more of a full coordinator–she’s coordinating our table/chair/linen rental, doing our flowers, etc.) and she is a HUGE pain in the ass. She’s always late getting back to me, cancelled two of our planning meetings, and I really don’t feel like she has a firm grasp on the details. I feel like having her is less stressful than not having a planner at all, but is still causing me more stress than she should.
I’d like to just be able to trust that she will handle the details, but I’m still worried that she’ll drop the ball on something. Not really the feeling you want in a wedding planner. Still, it’s too late for me to fire her now, and it’s a good experience in learning how to let things go 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Originally, I asked a former work colleague to do this (paid.) She had to back out the week of since her Mom was in the hospital with pneumonia, so one of my Mom’s friends stepped in. It wasn’t as smooth as I would have liked, but Mom’s friend saved the day.
Is there a friend/co-worker, etc. that you could pay to do this? Or- ask one of the girls in your bridal party to take care of “wrangling” people before you walk.
Post # 16
My godmother is going to do for me, she is super organized and knows everyone. It’s good for because I am close to her but didn’t have anything for her to do and she loves to be in charge of stuff. If you are on a budget I would definatly look for a friend or family member to take care of stuff but I would not try to do it myself.