Post # 1
Hi, bees! I am looking for some advice/persepctive…
Last night, as I was headed off to a riding lesson, FI grabbed my hand and TOOK MY ERING OFF MY FINGER and said “no rings on rough and tumble girls”. Um…WTH? I pouted a little on the way out the door and off to my lesson I went.
Since we were engaged in November, I barely have my ring off of my hand. I take it off to shower and wash dishes. But mucking out the pens, grooming the ponies, trail riding, jumping – it’s on my finger. I love my ring and what it symbolizes – and I wear it proudly. I spend so much time on my horse/at the barn/at shows – and I don’t want to be without it for such prolonged periods of time…
FI asserts that I could catch a prong and lose a diamond. True enough, but my response is, that’s what insurance is for!
Last night FI said “we need to go get your other ring (meaning my wedding ring) so you can wear that”. I was like umm, no – I’m not wearing my wedding band until we’re married – but we can go get me another to act as a stand in!
So, bees, please tell me – am I being silly? Do I need to rethink my perspective and start thinking about either a) not wearing it during my “rough and tumble” activities or b) really considering a stand in for those times?
For reference, this is my ring:
I’m not sure if I just want a CZ replica – or if I would go with a pretty eternity band (which could have the same issues of losing stones). I really would appreciate your input/suggestions!
Post # 3
Honestly I wouldn’t wear it if you at the stables, your FI is right what happens if you lose a diamond or worse…
Post # 4
@codysgirl16: Once my mom’s erings prongs got caught on one of the nylon halter straps and the horse pulled away and she nearly lost her finger, luckly the ring flew off instead.
ETA: She then got a bezel setting.
Post # 5
I would totally get a cz for those moments. why not?
ETA: actually, I would wear a CZ for when you don’t want to wear your real ring, but nothing horse riding. just remembered a terrifying accident my dad had.
Post # 6
Honestly, I would get a stand in for when you’re doing rougher activities. Like a plain band or something. It’s a stunning engagement ring and it would be a shame for it to get bashed up.
Post # 7
I don’t think you should wear your ring for things like gardening and horse stables, but I also don’t think you need a stand-in for those activities. Taking the ring off doesn’t make you any less committed. It just protects the ring. And the garden soil couldn’t care less if there’s a ring on your finger. I think if the situation were different, it would be worth a stand-in. Like if you were a bartender and always had your hands in lemon slices and ice bins, and were there for a full shift five days a week. But it’s a little excessive for just recreational things!
Post # 8
@Treeline: : ) which doesn’t solve the problem of having your finger ripped off!! LOL
@bebero: do you think I can have an exact replica made? I wouldn’t want it to be obviously obvious…
@Sassygrn: I’m okay with worrying about the diamonds. But, somehow, I just can’t getbring myself to worry about if my finger will get caught…
Post # 9
It definitely took me a long time to be comfortable going anywhere without my ring, but now I take them off fairly often (especially when I’m doing something where I could actually LOSE it, never mind just losing a diamond). My ring combo is very unique and would be almost impossible to replace, even with insurance! Think how sad you would be if something happened to your ring and you couldn’t find it 🙁
So, I think it’s probably smart to take it off for horse-related activities (and before long, you will get so used to not having it on your finger during that stuff that if you forget to take it off, you’ll instantly notice and be like “well crap, now I have to worry about this ring while I do XYZ activity”). I take mine off to run, especially trail running, because who knows?
A decent stand-in is a good thing to own anyhow, in case the ring ever needs to go in to get serviced, etc. So definitely buy one, and if you want to wear it instead of nothing for those diamond-unsafe activities, go for it!
Post # 10
i wouldn’t wear your ring while doing these activities. go without or get a plain band.
Post # 11
I don’t see why you can’t just wear a plain band. Doesn’t have to be your wedding band, just a cheap silver or titanium (if you want durable!) or whatever plain band.
Simply because of YOUR OWN safety, not the ring’s, it seems like a bad idea to wear this ring, or another like it. Don’t risk your fingers girl!
Post # 12
@codysgirl16: Well it could probably still get hooked in some way, but it has no prongs and it’s more band like so it’s less likely to get attached because it’s inside the metal.
Post # 13
@iarebridezilla: Ha – funny you should say lose it! I was galloping through the water about a month ago and had a moment when I didn’t feel my ring and thought it had fallen off!! Yep – I had a moment of panic – and then I realized it was still there. Phew. Mine’s not super unique – I’m not so sure why I think it would be okay to just get a missing diamond replaced, if necessary…
What do you consider a decent stand in? Where would I find one?
@HappySky7: thank you for the compliment : ) I love it – and I feel naked without it.
Post # 14
Gorgeous ring! I would probably err on the side of caution with it. My FI is turning out to be much more cautious with my ering than I am (I guess it makes sense, he DID pay for it..). A few weekends ago we were planting our gardens and he told me I was insane for wearing my ring.. uhh — it’s just dirt, it washes off, see? 😉
He also gets a little anal about me running with my ring on, but I DID take a nasty fall once while running and scratched the back of my band (re-dipping my ring solved that problem though). I’m the same way — we have insurance on it for a reason! Maybe I need to get a stand in, as well.
Post # 15
@Treeline: oh, I see. I think other folks are saying that the band itself could get caught, not just the prongs… Which, as I say, is possible, but fairly improbable???
Post # 16
I happen to agree with your FI on this one. If you like bling, and want a stand-in, how about something like a channel set or bezel set band? It’ll be low profile, won’t snag, and still give you some bling. Then you can also have a plain band if you want as your wedding ring.