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oh no- you don't have to get her anything else.
A gift is not about "look how flashy a present i got you" its supposed to be something sweet. And people appreciate the small things, truly we do! And i know she liked the gift you got her, especially if you saw it up in her house.
Just continue to be a great friend, its really the best gift anyone can give (oh that sounded so cheesy, but its true)
I agree with beesknees. You got her what you could at the time. It's not the amount that you spent, it's the fact that you did something for her, regardless.
I agree too! Your friend loves you and appreciates your gift, but she probably appreciates your friendship more. It also seems like she's not the type of girl to worry about this kind of thing.
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@ beesknees, catrella83 & gidgett: I guess I just feel bad. I wish I could've gotten her something nicer at the time (like one of ther serving trays she REALLY wanted) and I just feel guilty knowing that she is doing everything she can to help me. She even helped me register! Thank you for answering though, you've helped me feel better about the situation :)
I don't think you should get her a belated wedding present.
But if you really want to get her something to acknowledge her generosity and support, get her a 'for no reason' present or wait a few more months and get them a '1st anniversary' present.
And again- it doesn't have to be extravagent, often thoughtful and sentimental gifts are the most cherished.
MissStellar, if you'd really like to get her something to show your appreciation for how she's helping you now with planning your own wedding, than maybe you should. (Is she in your wedding party too?) But I wouldn't give it to her as an upgrade to her previous wedding gift, you already know she loves what you got her previously. Besides it really is the thought that counts and the meaning behind it, not the pricetag.
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@ MissCamera: No, she's not in my wedding and I wasn't in hers. Maybe that's why I feel bad- because she's been helping me with so much stuff (and offering to help my mom). I could get her something to thank her for helping so much.
@Rosychicklet: I like the idea of a 'first year anniversary' gift. Their anniversary isn't until October, but I could get them something for their 6-month anniversary. I like that :)
Miss Stellar, I totally feel you, and I'm so glad to see this on the boards! I make about the same as most of my friends (we're all in the same, low-paying field) but their guys are all much better off than mine. So our money is tight. I feel like a cheapskate every time I buy a $50 wedding present. (Even worse, I feel terrible when the first thing I think about a shower invite is "Crap! I can't afford another present!")
I like the anniversary idea, or a small present to thank her for all her help planning. It could even be similar to whatever you're getting your maids.
@ErinMarqurite: I actually didn't go to her shower because I couldn't afford to get her a gift. I feel terrible about it now, but I didn't want to show up without something!
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I've been there - it sucks. Get her something heartfelt, just because - and tell her it's just because she's so great and deserves it. How sweet you are to still be thinking about her wedding gift and such. 
Definitly do not buy her something else. Yes, you may be in a better financial situation now, but you were not then and I'm sure she understands. Just continue to be a good friends and appreciative of whatever she gives/does for you and this will definitly be better than any tangible gift.
I know how you feel.
When of my closest friends got married, I wasn't able to give her a big wedding gift. I still, to this day, feel guilty for not being able to. Our friendship has remained to be fabulous, and now that I am able to afford a little more...I'm planning to give her and her husbie an anniversary gift. It's not mandatory but I felt like I wanted to give her something thoughtful and heartfelt for being such an awesome friend.
I agree with the comments above, being a great friend is seriously the greatest gift of all!
I agree with the above commentors - if you do honestly feel like you want to give her a gift, go with a first anniversary gift. If her first anniversary falls after your wedding, it may seem like you're trying to "even the score" though (after seeing what she gave you for your wedding) so be sure that it doesn't come across like that. I know that it sounds cliche, but it really is the thought that counts. If your friendship hasn't been affected (like if she had been angry you only spent X on her wedding gift), then let it go (and hang on to her - she's a keeper!!)
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My old roommate from college got married in October. My FI an I went to her wedding (he went to elemetary school with her, and I went to pre-school with her FI). We don't have a lot of money (I really mean that). We could only afford to get her this wall-collage-picture frame. She said she really liked it, and I even saw it in her house.
Now, my FI and I are about to tie the knot. We have a little more money now (raises, and savings) and I'm wondering if I should make up for our inexpensive gift by getting her something else that was on her registry, but hasn't been fulfilled.
She knows that he and her husband make 3x what my FI and I make together, and she's never said anything about it. I just feel kinda... well... cheap. I know she's going to get my something fabulous as a gift. She keeps offering to help my parents with whatever they need and she's always been such a great friend.
I guess I just feel kinda guilty for not getting her a nicer gift, even though my FI and I couldn't afford anything better at the time.
What do you guys think? Should I get her something else now or just let it go?