Post # 1
My invitation budget in total was only enough to cover the postage for the 50 invitations that are going out as I have the paper and I am printing them on my own through my computer.
Most of the guests have been informed in some way of the date at this point and I thought we would not require any STDs because most if not all are fully aware. But his grandmother was talking to me this morning and was putting a lot of emphasis on how important it is to sent those out in a few months. When I told her I wasn’t getting any she got pretty mad.
So I’ve been pricing and we are looking at just under $100 to get the STDs and pay for postage. This is $100 that wasn’t even in our $2000 budget and other things are already going over budget!
At this point I don’t know what to do. Should I somehow scrape the $100 together to send them out in March or should I just have invitations go out in July as planned?
Post # 3
We are doing save the dates… there was no question about it as 1/2 our guest list would need to take time off to attend our wedding.
I think save the dates, if at least for those who are pretty far are a very nice gesture, but they aren’t required.
If you can’t fit it into your budget, I think it’s totally fine.
Post # 4
Nooo, STDs are bad!
Okay, all jokes aside, I dont think they’re necessary. We didnt get them.
Post # 5
Photographer trumps save-the-dates. If you’re going to scrape up any extra money, I would put it towards a photographer, per your previous post. Since you have relatively few invited guests, I would do something like an email save the date, or you could make your own and deliver them in person since you said previously that the only out of town guests were your fiance’s father and his wife who aren’t coming anyway.
Post # 6
I am not really a fan of save-the-date notices, although I’ve seen some that are beautiful. What I dislike about them is that they generally require a couple to finalize their budget and guest list relatively far in advance of the wedding, when circumstances easily could change, leaving a couple with little or no wiggle room if they should find themselves over budget and needing to scale back on the number of people they plan to invite.
I had a Friday evening, semi-destination wedding on a holiday weekend, and I still didn’t do them. If it helps, you can inform your grandmother that save-the-date notices are not traditional, and etiquette does not require them. 🙂
Post # 7
@JessicaJupiter: I don’t think save the dates are necessary- proper invites are sufficient.
Post # 8
In most polite terms they are not “done”. Honestly, they are a scheme of the bridal industry. I wouldn’t bother with them.
Half of the time, they are more headache then they are worth.
It doesn’t mean you can’t let people know some details of your wedding. It doesn’t only have to be through STD’s.
Post # 9
I would do an e-save the date!
Post # 10
I don’t see the point in STDs. If people are close enough to you to be invited to the wedding, they probably already know the date from conversations with you/your family. We didn’t send any either.
Post # 11
@JessicaJupiter: Don’t forget about the increase in stamp prices. I didn’t do them for my wedding. I went the traditional route, the really important people were contacted by us/our parents.
Post # 12
The title of this post cracked me and FI up. He says, “You should use condoms!”
Post # 13
I always crack up when I read posts referring to these as they can be hilarious if you take it with a dirty mind. I always need to remind myself what they mean when I catch a title like this!
Post # 14
@cmbr: I do agree, I was getting myself a little worked up this afternoon thinking that I can’t have a photographer yet I am expected to spend that money to send reminders to people before I even send invitations! I am certainly considering using email (don’t know why I didn’t think of that) as most guests can be reached easily through email. I’ll still probably print off a couple on my own just to send out to our much older invited guests as a nice reminder of the date.
@Brielle: I will certainly be making a call to his grandmother that it isn’t as necessary as she thought. I’ll be sending out a round of email ones just to serve as a reminder and some printout ones to our older relatives who can’t use a computer.
@Lily_of_the_valley: That is what I am now planning on doing since most guests do use email. We’ll be printing out some just for the older relatives who can’t use a computer so that they have some form of reminder this is coming.
@AB Bride: That is what has been in the back of my mind the entire time. The save the dates would have gone out before the increase but the cost of mailing out the invitations has already gone up on its own! So really with the increase to the invitation costs we’re already overbudget – which makes there be even less of a reason to do this.
Post # 15
It seems you already have an idea of what you’re going to do, but I just wanted to throw it out there that I didn’t do Save The Dates…invitations are plenty sufficient. Not to mention that Save the Dates are a pretty recent trend…surprised that Grandma of all people would find them so important. If most people already know when your wedding is, they are not necessary and I think an evite STD would be great.
Post # 16
@mg1363: I think that his grandmother has been watching the channel where they have all of the wedding shows because she seems to have an up to date opinion on almost every aspect of weddings. I was a little shocked myself because I hadn’t even been thinking of them! I think she just wants her grandson to have this big grand wedding by spending on things that aren’t so necessary.