Should I Get STDs

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We are doing save the dates… there was no question about it as 1/2 our guest list would need to take time off to attend our wedding.

I think save the dates, if at least for those who are pretty far are a very nice gesture, but they aren’t required.

If you can’t fit it into your budget, I think it’s totally fine.

Post # 4
8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Nooo, STDs are bad!

Okay, all jokes aside, I dont think they’re necessary. We didnt get them.

Post # 5
3664 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Photographer trumps save-the-dates. If you’re going to scrape up any extra money, I would put it towards a photographer, per your previous post. Since you have relatively few invited guests, I would do something like an email save the date, or you could make your own and deliver them in person since you said previously that the only out of town guests were your fiance’s father and his wife who aren’t coming anyway.

Post # 6
10899 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I am not really a fan of save-the-date notices, although I’ve seen some that are beautiful. What I dislike about them is that they generally require a couple to finalize their budget and guest list relatively far in advance of the wedding, when circumstances easily could change, leaving a couple with little or no wiggle room if they should find themselves over budget and needing to scale back on the number of people they plan to invite.

I had a Friday evening, semi-destination wedding on a holiday weekend, and I still didn’t do them.  If it helps, you can inform your grandmother that save-the-date notices are not traditional, and etiquette does not require them. 🙂

Post # 7
4468 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@JessicaJupiter:  I don’t think save the dates are necessary- proper invites are sufficient.

Post # 8
3217 posts
Sugar bee


In most polite terms they are not “done”.  Honestly, they are a scheme of the bridal industry.  I wouldn’t bother with them.

Half of the time, they are more headache then they are worth.

It doesn’t mean you can’t let people know some details of your wedding.  It doesn’t only have to be through STD’s.

Post # 9
2916 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would do an e-save the date!

Post # 10
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t see the point in STDs. If people are close enough to you to be invited to the wedding, they probably already know the date from conversations with you/your family. We didn’t send any either.

Post # 11
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

@JessicaJupiter:  Don’t forget about the increase in stamp prices.  I didn’t do them for my wedding.  I went the traditional route, the really important people were contacted by us/our parents.

Post # 12
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

The title of this post cracked me and FI up. He says, “You should use condoms!”


….sorry 🙂

Post # 15
1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

It seems you already have an idea of what you’re going to do, but I just wanted to throw it out there that I didn’t do Save The Dates…invitations are plenty sufficient. Not to mention that Save the Dates are a pretty recent trend…surprised that Grandma of all people would find them so important. If most people already know when your wedding is, they are not necessary and I think an evite STD would be great. 

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