Post # 1
The groom will be wearing this tux for the wedding. The Groomsmen will have the same tux but a blue vest and tie. I think that the ushers will be wearing a black suit and matching silver vests and ties.
I was going to put my dad in the same tux as either the groom or the Groomsmen. But he came to me the other day and asked that I either put him in a black tux, a cumberbund, or something different. He claims it’s because he’s young and hip and that he doesn’t want people confusing him for a Groomsmen or the groom himself, and I want to respect him wanting to be different. But I don’t feel there is any need for a third tux just for him.
I want to give him something he feels comfortable in, but I feel that I’ve given him three choices. Should I give him more? He wants something “funky”. Fiance thinks that I’d be, once again, giving the attention to my parents on my big day because they keep telling me that after all the years of raising me they deserve it. I don’t know what to think.
Also, my mother wants me to change her flowers only for the big day. So far I’m having billy balls, sunflowers, and a few small green orchids in the flowers. Fiance and I will have a few orange flowers in ours but that’s it. I told her yellow and orange were here options, she seems to feel they won’t match her teal/blue/brown MOB dress. I feel changing just ONE person’s flowers is absurd and the yellow definitely will match. And it’s on her wrist, not her chest. Please give me some help because this is frustrating!
Post # 3
i think he should be in a black tux. in the gray tux he would look like a member of the bridal party.
Post # 4
Since the day isn’t about them, just have Dad wear what the Groomsmen are wearing. Ppl will know its your Dad and won’t think he’s a Groomsmen.
And you Mom needs to wear the corsage that you pick out. It doesn’t make sense she wears a different color than your wedding colors.
I gave flowers to Moms, bridal party and my readers. I told everyone to wear what looked good on them regardless if it wasn’t my wedding colors. Some wore my wedding colors, while others wore black/white, red, and blue. Didn’t matter cause everyone looked beautiful.
Post # 5
Tell your mom that color blocking is “in” and that everyone will adore how stylish and hip she is with her blue dress and yellow flowers.
Post # 6
I think that your dad should be able to choose his own attire, within the dress code of the wedding. He’s neither an usher nor a Groomsmen, so he doesn’t need to match those guys. I’d let him wear what he wants.
I agree with you about your mother’s flowers. It’s normal for all the flowers for the wedding party and important family members to be the same, regardless of what the person is wearing. I imagine it would cost a bit extra to have an entirely different corsage made up… again, I’ve never seen this done. Also — you don’t have to tell this to your mom — no one is really going to notice the flower on her wrist. They’ll all be kooking at you!
Post # 7
First of all, love the tux you picked out for your groom and GMs.
I think you can have your dad in a black tux with blue as the accent. This way he still fits in but doesn’t look exactly like the Groom, GMs, or the Ushers. And I think the blue will stand out nicely from the black without being too over-powering.
- Groom-Grey Tux & Grey Accent
- GMs- Grey Tux & Blue Accent
- Ushers- Black Tux & Grey Accent
- FOB/FOG- Black Tux & Blue Accent
Hopefully that makes sense?
As for your Mom now. I think yellow will be a great colour to accompany the teal/blue/brown combination she already has, and hopefully she won’t put up too much of a fight, for just a couple of flowers.
Anyways I hope this helps, & that your planning is going well otherwise
Post # 8
@Koala Bear:That really did help. I like that suggestion for my dad, but do you think it’ll look too funny if he’s wearing a tux and the ushers are wearing a suit?
Post # 9
i’d let your dad wear whatever he wants; my dad didn’t match with hubby or the gms, he picked out his own thing.
but for your mom, she should just deal with it and wear the corsage you get for her. sheesh! 😛
Post # 10
A black suit would be very dignified for your father & he’d still fit in the photos. I would not, however, change the flowers for mom’s dress: I can’t imagine it looking right if she had different flowers from everyone elses!
Post # 11
@SweetRose2011: Well you can give him the option of either, whatever is more comfortable or affordable. I’m guessing that would be up to him (lol or you if it matters :P)