Post # 1
Hi bees, I need some help.
Last year March, Fiance and I were engaged. Then, we relocated from an east province (Quebec + Ontario) to a west province (British Columbia) in August. I started a new job here in September. We decided our wedding date around October and we will get married in Montreal, Quebec.
The wedding will consist of close family members and only a few really close friends.
1. Everyone in the office knows that I will get married in June 2011 in Montreal. Do I have to give my boss and/or coworkers invitation? (we can’t afford extra hotel accommodation for guests nor air tickets because we are already paying the hotel for close family…. which is a lot of money)
2. If I don’t have to give them invitation, do I have to do anything special before I go to Montreal for the wedding?
3. if I have to invite them, what expenses will I be responsible for?
Thanks Bees for help!!!!!!!!!
Post # 3
You absolutely aren’t required to invite them. If you were having a huge local wedding I would probably have a different answer but in this situation I would be shocked if any of them even expected an invte.
Post # 4
1. No you don’t have to invite them.
2. No, you don’t have to do anything for them. They might do something for you, though.
I didn’t invite anyone from my office to my out-of-town wedding, even though I am close with some of my coworkers and everyone in the office knew about the wedding. There was absolutely no awkwardness at all. BUT, you know your own situation best! Even if you do invite them, though, you are not obligated to pay their hotel or airfare. It’s understood that they’re responsible for that, and they factor that in when making their decision to attend or not. You are only responsible for their dinner, or whatever wedding event stuff you’re doing.
Post # 6
Ok I will admit this is one of those topics/issues that I feel overly passionate about but with that said, I don’t think you have to invite them, I dont think you have to do anything special for them and if you do invite them you have no responsibility to find them hotel rooms or pay for their accomadation etc. You can keep them in the loop but you shouldn’t feel you have to make any gesture about it. Share some photos when you get back.
Plus think of it from their perspective, i think inviting co-workers puts them in the awkward position of haivng to buy you a gift and/or explain why they are not coming. I’ve been invited to a few co-workers weddings and although I appreciated the gesture I had no desire to go sit next to their great aunt mildred.
If you want to invite them its more than fine, especially if you are friends with them but you don’t have to.
Post # 7
No, you don’t have to invite them. Emphasize with them that it’s a private wedding for your close family only. They will understand!