- 5 years ago
Wow! Can’t believe I found this website, it’s reassuring and also quite depressing to find so many other women in the same ringless boat as me!! It’s actually made me a little bit angry… but I’ll not even go there right now.
I have been with my man for nearly five years – since I was 18 and he was 20 and we are amazing together. We have never had any difficulties and no major problems have arisen in our relationship. We’ve been living together for 2 1/2 years and have an 11 month old baby girl – which for the record, I’m not ecstatic about having had her out of wedlock. (I’ve been banging on about getting married well before she was concieved)…
Everything is perfect, I really can’t complain….
Just one tiny (MASSIVE) problem…. when is he going to propose?
Now I’ve only just found this board, but this has been eating me for way over a year – longer. Since I was born I have been planning my dream wedding, traditional – I have detailed it finely. I have already decided into myself that I can no longer wear a vail or a white dress now since I have a daughter – I have now altered the dream white vera wang into something much more sophisticated and discreet – the jig is up afterall. No need for the whole shabang…
I want to get married so badly. I hate that I’m the only one out of our little family that doesn’t share the same surname. He knowwwws how badly I want it, I pinterest the life out of 6 pronged solitaire engagement rings and have been doing this for years. I’m not coy about expressing my love for all things wedding. I regularly critizise others weddings because it’s not how I’d have it… he laughs….
We just haven’t actually sat down and talked about it. Why? Becuase I’m embarrassed! I want HIM to ask ME, him to be the one to say that he wants to spend the rest of our lives together. I think it’s a money thing. We’re not millionaires, but my goodness, for our age, we’ve achieved a lot, have just bought a lovely house and are providing for our daughter -we both earn enough. I think with all my pretencises he thinks I’m holding out for the tiffany – but I’m not – how do I tell him I’m REALLY HAPPY to settle for moissinate, without sounding like a derranged, crazy, bunny boiler? He CAN afford a ring….
And honestly, it really is starting to wreck things, because i’m angry. He’s the type of bloke who needs sort of guided in everything he does. What do we eat for takeaway? What I decide. What do we see in the movies? What I decide. I literally can’t imagine him having the gumption to go and buy and ring and plan a proposal all by himself.
I need to confront it. I really want to give an ultimateum.
Am I crazy?