Post # 1
Girls, I have a not-so serious confession to make. I am white. I mean WHITE. I joke that I’m a pigmented albino. I managed to be the only person to get a sunburn. In Ireland. Surrounded by Irish people. In the rain. I nearly glow in the dark.
So I avoid the sun. Except when I was little, I’ve never tanned, I burn. It’s from white to red, very little in between.
So now, my wedding is ~40 days away and I’m faced with a decision. Do I embrace my milky paleness and blend in with my white dress? Or do I risk going and getting a spray tan, using a tanning booth, some non-“go out in the sun” method? I wouldn’t mind color at all, but I want something that will work and not leave me looking ridiculous, especially when the only idea of how I look with a tan is when I play with my skin in photoshop.
Ideas? What would you do in my shoes?
Post # 3
I am also extremely ghostly white, and I plan on staying that way for my wedding. I don’t like spray or fake tans (I have nightmares about getting one and having it rub off on a nice white dress), and because of health issues, I can not be in the sun. I’m just embracing it!
Post # 4
Nah, I would stay your true skin tone and not go darker for your wedding. Spray tan sucks.
Post # 5
I was in your case! I have Irish blood. I didn’t think it was worth it because I’m not capable of tanning and it wasn’t worth the skin cancer/sun damage risk. I’ve never bee too crazy about the tan thing, I once dated a man who LOVED pale skin and asked me to keep it white-white. I dunno, I guess he didn’t care for tan lines. I live in a winter climate anyway so its not a big deal and his confidence in it really made me appreciate being pale and others who are pale.
As I just advised my best friend who is dress shopping: You have beautiful, smooth porcelain skin. You owe yourself to take care of it and keep it smooth and undamaged as best you can because it makes you you and you are beautiful. Tanning is just fashionable and you will appreciate the care you take of your skin when you are 60. Embrace the whiteness!
Post # 6
Yes, get a spray tan. I’m going to copy/paste advice I just gave in another thread. (And yes, I am experienced in this. I’m Irish and German and cannot tan naturally. I’m planning to get airbrush for my wedding next year as I don’t want my skin to match the color of my dress!)
DON’T do it yourself. Get a professional airbrush tan done. A technician will spray you with the solution so that the coverage is even all over. They buy a bottle of whatever you like best and use it for touch-ups when the airbrush starts to fade. Shower as infrequently as possible and MOISTURIZE to keep the tan longer.
Read more: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/tanning-for-destination-wedding-help#ixzz2dNRFDjj8
ETA: You can always go to a tanning salon & get one to try out and see if you like the way it looks first. It will fade in 4-5 days if you hate it. Also they can adjust the color, so you can go as dark or light as you want.
Post # 7
@MrsFutureG: Id do what I am going to do. Get a spay tan now and see if you like it. If not dont do it.
Post # 8
I’m not too famliar with them, but could you do a tinted lotion like the Jergens ones? Like a bronzing lotion just on your arms and face that might just make you slightly less translucent? Maybe try it out on your legs if they’ll be hidden under your dress and see how it works.
Post # 9
I would just stayyour normal color. Porcelain is in, right?!
Post # 10
@jesssamesssa: How long do those last?
Post # 11
@MrsFutureG: First of all- whether its beet red or orangy brown, you won’t look yourself on your wedding day. I wouldn’t aim for either one. I think you should stay true to yourself and embrace your beauty!!
IF you decide you absolutely need to do something though, go for the fake tan. UV beds are so bad for your skin, especially if you are very fair. No cancer risks before the big day! Also, if you end up burning, you will be incredibly unformfortable in your dress- so not worth it! My sister has an extrememly fair complexion as well-red hair, blue eyes, lots of freckles. She gets the “clear” spray tan (no bronzer) whenever she has a wedding to go to. It’s a lot more natural, develops more slowly and never gets as dark as some of those jersey shore gals. She always looks like she just has a healthy glow when she gets them- I like them! `If you have over a month before the big day, I say give it a try in the next week or so and see if you like it. Hope that helps! MS
Post # 12
I was nicknamed Casper for much of middle and high school – I’m pale, and can relate to you. I considered going spray tanning or to a tanning bed for a hot second before the wedding, and then realized — that’s not me. I have pale, white, freckly skin. I got married with pale, white, freckly skin. And you know what, it was great, because it was ME.
Post # 13
@MrsFutureG: I dont know. I have never had them done which is why I am going to do a trial run. I think 4-7 days.
Post # 14
@MrsFutureG: You’ll burn in a tanning bed just as easily as you’d burn in the sun so that’s out. I’ve heard good things about Jergen’s. You could also do a spray tan in a pinch but I’d be worried about it flaking or staining a white dress. Does your natural skin color really look that bad?
Post # 15
@Aquaria: It’s not bad. I’m just really pale and I made the mistake of getting a white gown (I realize I should have gone for ivory but I love it and damnit, I’ve only been with this one person, I earned it!)
I’m going to look into Jergens first, it sounds like the least invasive/most affordable option to start with.
Post # 16
I’m a wedding photographer, and I LOVE shooting fair-skinned brides….they are always so radiant. I say embrace your creamy white-ness! 😉