Post # 1
Tomorrow I was suppose to see my Fiance. Were in a ldr and we talk a couple times through the day. Tonite however our nite call was very short like 2 mins if that, because he was going out with his friends. No problem, but I was hoping he would take time out to at least talk to me for the little 10 mins we do normally. But instead he was rushing me off the phone and not taking trying to give me my time. I asked him if he could call me when he got back home, and his reply was I’m going to see you tomorrow. I didnt want a hour or 30 mins just 10 if that. Sometimes days are harder to get through when I’m not with him, now im not sure if I even want to go tomorrow to see him. He tells me he misses me so much but when his friends come into the picture he throws me off for them. Am I wrong to feel this way?
Post # 3
@KeshiaSimone: I dont think that you are wrong to feel this way but if you dont go you will probably regret it and it will most likely cause a fight… But i think that going and seeing him would be a great time to talk to him about what your feeling…
Post # 4
Does he frequently toss you aside when his friends are over? It sounds like this isn’t the first time. Let him know this bothers you and find a way to compromise. You want him to be happy to hang with his friends, but you also want your time with your man, whether you’re scheduled to see him the next day or not. Maybe you two can work out a better schedule for your nightly calls?
This kind of talk might go over best in person, so go on your trip, enjoy yourselves, have a pleasant time, and ask him about this at a good moment soon after you arrive as not to let things linger. Address the matter, then move on to the rest of your visit.
Post # 5
Firstly, and I say this with good intentions, I used to react much the way you are, so please believe that what I am saying is for your own good. – DON’T BE SUCH A GIRL!!
“Oh no! He didn’t want to talk to him for ten minutes tonight so even though I don’t get to see him that often I am now not going to see him tomorrow! That way I can punish both of us and be extra miserable!” – Really?
Go tomorrow, do not punish both of you for his small oversight. This is how he was thinking:
If he is going out with his friends chances are he has to get ready/is running late/has to pick people up. He is making time for his friends tonight so that he can focus souly on you tomorrow. Cut him some slack! He probably doesn’t want to talk tonight because he doesn’t want you waiting up for him and he wants to get as much sleep as possible so that he is fresh for tomorrow. If you are really that upset about it then talk. to. him.
Enjoy your time with him tomorrow and gently bring up that you felt a little bit blown off tonight. It’s no good trying to talk to him about it now because he is busy. This is a small issue that can wait.
Take a deep breath, remember that we as women blow things out of proportion and nothing will be accomplished by canceling on him now and being passive aggressive.
Enjoy tomorrow, I’m sure that it will be wonderful. 🙂
Post # 6
Tickles hit it on the head