Post # 1
I have a question that I think my fellow Bees can help with…
In 2010, I was Maid of Honor in a friend/co-worker’s wedding, despite her husband and I not really being fond of each other. My friend and I were really close and always had a really great time together and we had so much fun at her wedding, which was beautiful and nearly perfect.
Three days after the wedding, they moved across the country because her husband was getting stationed for the Army. (They were engaged and married in seven months). Since they moved, I have spoken to my friend twice. I have tried calling, texting, and messaging her and she has not answered or responded in any way. So, I sort of just gave up.
Well, today, I received a Facebook message from her husband inviting me to a surprise birthday party he is having for her at his parents’ house that is twenty minutes from where I live. (They will be in town for Christmas). He said she also recently joined the Army (I had no idea) and hurt her ankle, so she’s been kind of down and he said she’d love to “see everyone.” He also told me to bring a mutual friend we have.
I was a bit surprised by this invitation since we haven’t spoken in a long time. I want to go, but I’m worried it will be awkward. And maybe I’m being paranoid, but I don’t want her to be like ‘Why is she here?’ Haha. What should I do?
Post # 3
And, just for the record, I didn’t do anything to cause her to stop talking to me.
Post # 4
@futuremrsndl: it sounds like the perfect opportunity to see each other again. i think you should definitely go.
Post # 5
@mypinkshoes: I know you’re right and I think it will be easier if I bring our mutual friend with me. Thank you.
Post # 6
I’d go for sure. If you feel too awkward you could just leave.
Post # 7
@mypinkshoes: +1! I would definitely go.
I generally am not good at keeping in touch with people and who knows, maybe she’s that way and life just got busy.
Post # 8
You can always stop by and if it is too awkward for you after you have been there a while just let her know you have to run but you just wanted to stop by, say hi, wish her well and give her a hug!
Post # 9
I wouldn’t go. She didn’t answer you when you tried getting in touch numerous times and as a good friend, she didn’t tell you of a major career change. But that is just me.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I don’t think there would be any harm in attending. Like others have said, if you feel awkward at any time, you can excuse yourself. Perhaps her husband feels as though he wants to mend whatever fences with you too. I just feel that if the opportunity presents itself and she was/is a good friend, it would just be a good thing to go. 🙂