(Closed) Should I go and see my FI's godparents?

posted 5 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I go?
    Yes - Don't be selfish : (24 votes)
    55 %
    No - It sounds misserable : (20 votes)
    45 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    41 posts
    Newbee

    I opened this one thinking that I would be on the “suck it up and go” side, but after reading your post I am very much on the “oh heck no” side. That just sounds terrible. Only you know how big a deal it will be if you don’t go, but I would stick to using the valid health concerns as reasons (the fleas and the smoking) for not attending. Seriously, those are good reasons not to go. Good luck!

    Post # 4
    Member
    11352 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    @littletree:  +1.  I was all set to tell you that, even though you and your FMIL do not have a good relationship, you should still go.  However, you had me at “fleas” and “smoking.”

    Post # 7
    Member
    9061 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    The only reason I personally wouldn’t go is the smoking. I have a nicotine allergy and I will get very, very, very sick if I am around someone who is smoking, especially indoors.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1508 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Thats tough! I voted to suck it up and go but now I am not sure. What does you FI say? I think if its really important for him to have you there then go but if hes okay with you missing this one I’d bail.

    Post # 10
    Member
    41 posts
    Newbee

    @eocenia:  You feel bad because you are a good person! I would feel bad too, but that doesn’t mean I would go. Maybe make an appointment that day – to volunteer or donate blood or something, ha Smile. Really though, it speaks to your character that you are worried about it, but  that doesn’t mean you should suffer. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    5894 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    You totally deserve an award, but you have to suck it up and go–it’s the adult thing to do. Plus they are elderly. How would you feel if they die a couple of weeks after the event and your FI didn’t get to see them. Talk about guilt!

    Before you go, put on some bug spray, take and antihistime, advil and big smile.

     

    PS- do they need some extra help? There is no reason their cats should have fleas. They can go to the vets and get flea medication. Maybe one the kind things you can do is offer to take the cats to vets and pay for some flea medication (it’s expensive). The cats must be miserable too!

     

    Post # 14
    Member
    9143 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    The fleas and smoking are dealbreakers.  Maybe it’s time for the godparents to let someone else host the family Christmas.  Your FH should address the issue with the family and he should not feel bad about missing out for those reasons.  It is unacceptable to have company over to your home if your home is infested with fleas.

    Post # 15
    Member
    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Brielle:  Same. I’m very allergic to smoke and always dreaded going to my ex’s parents’ house because they also smoked inside. I’d have to keep going outside to breathe, and would shower and do laundry IMMEDIATELY after we got home. Gross.

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