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posted 2 years ago in Toledo, Ohio
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    Stylegirl       Archbold

    My boyfriend and i have been dating for 9 months and his sister will be getting married October 24, she didnt include me in the wedding, and didn't even bother to send my an invitation. Now my boyfriend is in the wedding. He really wants me to go with him to the wedding, even after he know how i feel, since i wasn't invited. am i making a big deal out of this by not wanting to go or should i forget about it and go??

     
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    sunnygal    1/2/10   Virginia Beach

    My initial thought was that she didn't send you invite because you are her brothers girlfriend, obviously you would be his date. I wouldn't send a invite to my sisters boyfriend, i would assume that she would bring him.  Is there bad tension with you two?

     
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    GI Josephine    July 14, 2012   Cleveland, Ohio

    I agree with sunnygal.. I would think that she just assumed that you would be coming with him and no invitation was necessary. 

     
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    JamaicaBride    May 14, 2011   Charlotte, NC

    It doesn't seem odd to me that you were not a part of the wedding party as most brides choose to put either siblings or close friends as bridesmaids/hostesses. It also doesn't seem odd to me that you didn't receive an invitation since you would be included on the invitation that your boyfriend received. I think you are making a big deal out of nothing. I don't see anything here that looked like it was intended to insult you or leave you out, this just looks like normal wedding etiquette to me. I say go and have a good time.

     
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    Bella Luna    September 5, 2010   Ohio

    I tend to agree with Sunny - perhaps she only sent one to your FI because she assumed he would bring you too? I would talk to him and find out if there was an 'and guest' or whatever on the invite just to make sure there is a place for you (and food!). If not, you should probably have him talk to her and find out what the deal is. :)

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    hshuang    May 6, 2011   MI

    It would only reflect well on you to go! Refusing may cause strain between you and your boyfriend. Plus, it could create a sore issue in the long run with a potential sister-in-law. :-) I agree with the ladies above me--go and have a great time!

     
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    bLISSFLbRDE    August 6, 2011  

    @sunnygal: Completely agreed on that. She would be cosidered as the guest as was my brother now FI!!! And she was not offended even after a death in her immediated family of someone close ase and and young, she even replied back for him, I would have to if it was me. I also would go to that wedding ....

     
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    bLISSFLbRDE    August 6, 2011  

    yeahhhhh, I think your making it kinda a big deal about it girl! Just go please. Like yI told sunnygal, I didnt send invites to each person in the household~ way too many paper wasted. I sent one to each household and addressed by my family or FI's family. I may have used to mr. Brother AND family but I am thoughtful like that :) but if your bf got one  your are implied sweat heart dont take it personall pleaaaaaaze. Go have fun, eat dring have a good time and know that your bf will and hsould put you as a PLUS ONE as my brothers FI did on brothers invite! Good luck btw

     
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    EsqBailey    August 20, 2012   Virginia

    Go. Have fun. Be merry. Smile and enjoy it.

     
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    MissGreen    July 2009  

    He's your BF not your FI and you've been dating 9 mths; why would you think you would actually be a part of the wedding? I'm sorry but most brides pick their best friends/family or people they've known for years. You probably didn't get a seperate invitation bc as PP stated, she assumed you as her brothers guest. Did he get an invite? If so was it addressed "Brother & Guest"? You're really making a big deal out of nothing and if you don't attend will reflect poorly on you and your attitude.

     
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    MissGreen    July 2009  

    Holy crap batman! Just realized this post was over a year old! Why in the world was it brought back up? I think advice here is a moot point...

     
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    bLISSFLbRDE    August 6, 2011  

    OOPS

     

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