Should I go to a very good friend's wedding if my DH wasnt invited?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should i go to her wedding?
    Yes : (120 votes)
    41 %
    No : (174 votes)
    59 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @ariaK:  Honestly, if it were me I wouldn’t go… that’s incredibly rude, spouses are definitely assumed to be included!

    Post # 4
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    646 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    She’s having a very small wedding. I understand you want your DH there, but come on.. she needs to keep the list small. I think you should cut her some slack in this case and go anyway. Is it very far from you? If it’s very far then I may reconsider my response haha. 

    Post # 5
    welliesMember
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee

    If someone else’s DH was invited and not mine, I wouldn’t go.

    Post # 6
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    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think you should go but I think she’s being very rude by inviting some husbands and not yours 

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @ariaK:  uh, what venue is this that only allows 20 people? No, I would not go. I would expect my “good friend” to invite my husband as well. 

    Post # 8
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    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @tallierand:  I would agree with that 100% but then that brides should NOT have extended an invite to the mutual friend’s spouse.  

    I’d go but I’d tell the bride I thought it was rude.

    And have you asked why that other spouse was allowed?????

    Post # 9
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    1690 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I wouldn’t go without my husband. You don’t invite one spouse and not the other, we are a package deal.

    Post # 11
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    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I wouldn’t. We are a social unit. 

    Post # 12
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    1174 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Okay, i will amend… I would go if it was a teensy tiny elopement and like 5 people were invited and you were one of them, but no other husbands or SOs were invited. However, this is an actual reception, even if it’s a small one… so how can you justify pickign and choosing whose husband is invited and whose is not? Soooooo rude!

    Post # 13
    Member
    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I would be honored that I made a 20 person guest list and greatfully accept.

    Post # 14
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    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I change my response – the more I think about it the more it pisses me off.

    I wouldn’t go.  

    Post # 15
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    1021 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @ariaK:  its only 20 people.  you should be honored you got an invite.  i wouldnt be able to choose only 20 people.

    Post # 16
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    802 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

    is she close with the other husband? and not yours?

    honestly I get it – she’s inviting 20 people… I understand it’s standard you invite both the husband and the wife… but obviously 20 people is NOT a lot of people and you have to cut people somewhere. 

     

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