Post # 1
She’s a really good friend of mine, I invited both her and bf to our wedding. I was really excited when she asked if I was free on that day..i said yes.. And then realised she didnt invite my DH but our other mutual’s friend DH was invited.. She has a small wedding guest list of only 20. I asked if I could bring my DH and she said it would be over the limit of 20 and she would have to ask the venue if its allowed. I am quite offended.. But i also feel bad if I dont go as she’s a good friend in high sch, we were like ‘sisters’.. Should I go alone or not at all?
Post # 3
@ariaK: Honestly, if it were me I wouldn’t go… that’s incredibly rude, spouses are definitely assumed to be included!
Post # 4
She’s having a very small wedding. I understand you want your DH there, but come on.. she needs to keep the list small. I think you should cut her some slack in this case and go anyway. Is it very far from you? If it’s very far then I may reconsider my response haha.
Post # 5
If someone else’s DH was invited and not mine, I wouldn’t go.
Post # 6
I think you should go but I think she’s being very rude by inviting some husbands and not yours
Post # 7
@ariaK: uh, what venue is this that only allows 20 people? No, I would not go. I would expect my “good friend” to invite my husband as well.
Post # 8
@tallierand: I would agree with that 100% but then that brides should NOT have extended an invite to the mutual friend’s spouse.
I’d go but I’d tell the bride I thought it was rude.
And have you asked why that other spouse was allowed?????
Post # 9
I wouldn’t go without my husband. You don’t invite one spouse and not the other, we are a package deal.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t. We are a social unit.
Post # 12
Okay, i will amend… I would go if it was a teensy tiny elopement and like 5 people were invited and you were one of them, but no other husbands or SOs were invited. However, this is an actual reception, even if it’s a small one… so how can you justify pickign and choosing whose husband is invited and whose is not? Soooooo rude!
Post # 13
I would be honored that I made a 20 person guest list and greatfully accept.
Post # 14
I change my response – the more I think about it the more it pisses me off.
I wouldn’t go.
Post # 15
@ariaK: its only 20 people. you should be honored you got an invite. i wouldnt be able to choose only 20 people.
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
is she close with the other husband? and not yours?
honestly I get it – she’s inviting 20 people… I understand it’s standard you invite both the husband and the wife… but obviously 20 people is NOT a lot of people and you have to cut people somewhere.