(Closed) Should I go to the Wedding after being uninvited and then invited again?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I go to the Wedding I was uninvited to and then invited again?
    Yes : (36 votes)
    42 %
    No : (50 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It hardly seems worth it after the drama, but I understand wanting to support your fiance and his friend.  What I’d suggest is presenting your mixed feelings to your fiance and ask him what he would like.  If he thinks it will stir up drama and isn’t a great idea, sit this one out and if he wants you there, then you ought to go.

    Post # 4
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    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Go for the groom and your Fiance.

    Post # 5
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    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    My initial thought was no way! But considering that the groom is your FI’s best friend I thinkin this situation I would go to support him. If it was a wedding that neither of you cared to attend that much it would be different.

    Post # 6
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    2204 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Would it be possible to meet the bride for coffee and clear the air?

    Post # 7
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    3947 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    i wouldn’t go.  I think it’s fine enough that your fiance go but it doesn’t sound like the couple really cares if you are there are not. 

    Post # 8
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    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    If the bride doesn’t want you there I don’t think you should go. Unless you speak to her directly and resolve the miscommunications, I think it would extremely uncomfortable and not fair on either of you. 

    Post # 9
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    4693 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I would go. Be the bigger person and be there for the groom and your FI.

    Post # 10
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    2073 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    eek.  I’m on the fence about this one.  My initial reaction was no to go but I can see why you’d want to go to support your FI and his best friend.  Is the guest list large?  If so, it may not be so awkward for you and she might not notice you are there right away.  I highly doubt the bride will cause a scene with you on her wedding day.  I don’t blame you for not wanting to go though.  

    Post # 11
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    7296 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @PinkPinstripes:  this. 

    even if you both don’t really mean it, at least the air will be cleared so it’s not so awkward. Cuz i would also want to go to support FI and his friend.  I imagine your FI being there without you and having to deal with all kinds of questions from other people about your whereabouts and that would suck for him.  the bride hopefully will be preoccupied with more important things on her wedding day than being catty to you.

    Post # 12
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    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I wouldn’t go until you resolve this with the bride. The bride doesn’t want you there…do you know who is paying for the wedding? If it’s the bride’s parents then be prepared to asked to leave if she throws a fit about it. 

    Your FI’s bf needs to have a chat with her too. If FI invited someone that I clearly did not want there, I would be livid. 

    Post # 13
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    890 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I agree, I wouldn’t go until you and the bride are on good terms. A little talk with her would probaly clear the air, and you guys could hear each others side of the story. If you didn’t resolve it with the bride, I wouldn’t go, I think you would just feel uncomfotable the whole time.

    Post # 14
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    11273 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    i would probably want to get the ok from the bride in this case.  regardless of wanting to support your fi and his best friend, you are going to feel incredibly awkward being in a place where you know are unwelcomed.  have the groom talk to the bride so that she at least knows that you are coming.

    i agree with pp.  do you think it’s possible to discuss your differences with the bride?  you don’t have to become bff’s but i’m guessing that since the guys are bf’s, she will be invited to your wedding next year.

    Post # 15
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    170 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    There is no way in hell I would go near that wedding….

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    I really like the idea of meeting with her to clear the air. Due to your FI/her FI’s relationship, this isn’t someone you really can ignore.

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