Post # 1
I have a group of friends who are moms like myself. We get together about once a week during the day for play dates, but we also try to get together once a month during the evening for a mom’s night out. This month, someone suggested we all go out for dinner and drinks, which sounded great to me. Then, out of the blue, another friend suggested we have a mom’s night in instead. She said we could all go to her house for an evening and do drink wine, do facials, etc. Everyone agreed this sounded like fun and we picked a date we were all available. Well, she sent out an evite to the party, and I feel like I’ve been duped.
The evite says that the party is actually hosted by her friend who is selling skin care products through Mary Kay. This is a direct sales company, so this is actually a party to get us to buy stuff from her friend! I thought we were just having a regular mom’s night in. If I had known it was a sales party, I wouldn’t have said I was available to come.
Now I feel like I have to go, because I told her I was free on this specific date. I could come up with a last minute excuse, but I think she would know I was just trying to get out of going. What should I do?
Post # 2
Bichon Frise: Hi___,
This is ___ . I wanted to let you know that I won’t be coming to the get together tonight. I am really not interested in a Mary Kay party. Sorry to miss seeing you and the rest of the girls. Have a fun evening.<br /><br />
Post # 3
julies1949: I think that’s a great way to phrase it. OP, it’s probably best to just be direct and ay you’re not interested. You friend basically tricked you into agreeing to attend a sample party, which was really uncool of her and it’s okay to back out. If I were you I’d contact the other moms and see how they feel about this, you’re probably not the only one who is feeling a little used. Depending on what the rest of the group has to say, you might be able to meet up for dinner after all.
Post # 4
Thanks for your replies. From what I hear, it seems like the other moms are interested in the party, but I think they are trying to be polite. The friend who suggested this has a somewhat aggressive personality and is known for trying to get us all to sign up for various subscription boxes, etc just so she can get a reward for herself. I don’t want to start anything and be on her bad side though, since these women were friends before I came along. I don’t want to lose any friends, since I enjoy getting out with other women who understand what I’m going through as a new mom.
I’ll probably tell her I’m not interested in attending the party, but I don’t know if I should ask the other women about it, since it may get back to her.
Post # 5
Bichon Frise: I think you are correct. Adults do not need to manage other people’s choices. If the other women don’t want to go, they can stand up for themselves.
Post # 6
I’d be seriously pissed off at this particular deception because I truly detest direct sales parties being tricked into one would really get my goat!
So I absolutely sympathise with the situation you are in and I suggest you politely decline but don’t actually ask the other women about it. If they are equally cross about how your moms’ night has been hi-jacked I’m sure word will get back to you.
Post # 7
Bichon Frise: You were duped and it was totally uncool. I hate the tactics used by these companies.
Don’t go! Those MK reps are THE worst.
Send the other mom an e-mail that says you must have understood, you thought it was just a moms night in and you didn’t realize it was a sales party. Tell her that frankly, you don’t care for MK or these type of sales parties so you won’t be attending.
Don’t fall for it when she says just come to have fun and socialize.